Where flowers bloom, where love grows. -My thoughts about love are growing.

My thoughts about love are finally growing, it’s finally maturing, and it’s finally taking its own path, making its own backyard.

Love is such a wonderful four letter word. But I have also come to realize that, with that four letter word another four letter words could sprout—Fear, Lust, Risk, Dare, Hurt, Care, Wait, Last, Like, Give, Hope and Many More. It’s like a mother giving birth to its children.

I love the idea of getting the love from watching movies, series or dramas. It feeds my mind to hope for something like that to happen to me. To make me believe that I can have someone like John Cusack in Serendipity, believing in fate, believing in destiny or just like every character of Ryan Gosling in a romantic film making you, making us want to love.

But somehow, I’ve come to realize, that these whole things of loving someone or just the word love itself is a tough one to catch. It’s a closed ring, between you and that ‘love’. You’ll be fighting one on one, blood by blood, and the winner takes it all.

I fell in love and it was a tough one.  I have learned so many things from it and from that kind of love I have experienced; I started to know what I wanted.

I want someone who can admire the less obvious in me, the one who can see deep inside of my smiling face, of my laughing dance or my crying eyes. I wanted a love that can see my reflections, someone that can’t judge me for my mistakes or failures or someone that can’t define me because of my wrong doings.

I want someone who can look me in the eyes so deep that it’ll bother for a moment but I can gaze back through him and everything around us will just be a blur.  I want someone whom I can dance in the kitchen while cooking or baking, someone who can dance with me in the rain or tag along with our favorite indie music.

Someone who can see me not wearing any fancy clothes or make-ups, but still see something in me that’s worth like the Heart of the Ocean. Someone who can be crazy with me at all times, the same wavelength I had. It’s like we are playing mind games but no one will win because both of us will get it.

I pray for someone who can make a song for me, not really making an original song but making a song his own song for me, owning it, that whenever I heard that song playing wherever I am, he’s the only one I can always think about.

Someone who can travel with me and be adventurous. Someone that can dream with me while gazing through the stars. Someone who can sip coffee with me in the morning and someone who can drink wine with me in the evening. Someone who is ready to learn new things with me. I water you, you water me, so we grow together. Someone I can lean on, happy or sad moments. Someone I can trust my life with it. Someone who never let go, someone who never leaves. Someone who will hold you until you fell asleep from crying. Someone who can laugh at your silly jokes. Someone who is honest.

Someone that is really meant for you.

Someone I can be with to pray every time.

Most of all, a person that I can also be that ‘someone’ to him.

Or maybe, just someone who can love me.

There's no harm in praying for someone like that to come into your life anyway. Who doesn't? Love makes you feel like a romantic writer anyway. 

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15 Thoughts about love that I always wanted my heart to remember

1. Find someone who admires you for something less obvious

2. You will never heal by going back to what broke you

3. Give love you never got

4. A person who values you would never put themselves in a position to lose you

5. You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free

6. You will never have to chase what wants to stay with you

7. If you have been brutally broken, but still have the courage to be gentle to others, then you deserve a love deeper than the ocean itself.

8. The person who did this to you is broken, not you

9. It's not love's job to punish you

10. The absence of a lover is not the absence of love, I am my own belly butterflies, my own sunshine, my own warmth

11. Go for someone who is not only proud to have you, but will also take every risk just to be with you

12. Love is not your savior. Love is the luxury after you save yourself

13. When you lose someone, it is never the exactly the same person who comes back

14. If you don't belong, don't be long

15. When someone leaves, it's because someone else is about to arise

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10 things I hate but makes me love you.

10 THINGS I HATE ABOUT YOU

I hate it when I ask you “what are you thinking?” Then you’ll say nothing, even though there is. It makes me wanted to wonder in your world.

I hate it when you lie or whenever I felt that you’re lying. I honestly wanted to know all the details, big or small.

I hate it when you take 5 cigs a day (or more) or get drunk on evenings. I am concern about your health, I wanted to be with you for the longest time, because we have so much things to do.

I hate it when you look at me & I’ll ask you “Why?” then you’ll say nothing. If you wanted to tell me I am beautiful or if you love me, or if there’s a dirt on my face, please tell me. I wanted to hear it from you.

I hate it when you accidentally steps on my foot or trip. I walk fast remember? So why?

I hate it when you fall asleep & forget to text me good night. I know you’re tired, but please before going to sleep, send me a good night message, when the night comes, I wanted my last text message would be coming from you.

I hate it when you sip your drink louder. It’s kinda cute, but others are looking. But it’s you, so it’s okay anyway.

I hate it when we fight, either it’s me who started or you, I just really don’t like the feeling. But whenever it will happen, please let us always try our best to work things out.

I hate it when you’re thinking you’ll disappoint me or you’ll fail. I wanted you to know that I am here in your worst & best moments in your life.

I hate knowing all the girls you like before.

10 THINGS I LOVE ABOUT YOU

I love it when you touch my cheeks, chin, ears & back. It’s like you’re playing with my sensation.

I love it when you hold my hand, while we’re walking in the middle of the night, just the two of us. You make me feel safe.

I love it how you protect me while crossing the streets, you’re so into it. I also do love while you patiently wait for me when I came from work. It touches my heart, knowing that you’ll be waiting for me. I will always appreciate your efforts.

I love it when you say my name or our endearment, it’s like my name has a new meaning.

I love looking at you while you eat, you make me realize that foods shouldn’t come into waste, every bit of it. I love the nights when we decided to drink outside, talk & have a meaningful conversation. You are the best food buddy I ever have.

I love it when you say you’ll support me, I love it, that even though it’s not your thing to photograph foods or places, you still join me in my hobby & make sure will get the right shot.

I love knowing that even though, I am the craziest, moodiest, weirdest person in the world, you always choose to stay & still interested in knowing my thoughts.

I love how you respect me, it really shows , for telling me I am beautiful, that you’re proud of me & that you’re lucky to have me as your partner. It made me feel the best.

I love it when we both plan & think about our future together, to the places we would go, to the times we can spend all the time & be fool & stupid in love.

1   I love it when you tell me you are happy when you’re with me, that even though I have my own flaws, you still love me & you will always choose to love me.  And there’s more to love about you.

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Why we keep on coming back?

Dear _____,

I have a song for you.

“True love they use to say won’t leave you astray, but hey babe we can start all over again, we’re going home”. There may be a hundred reasons why we failed in the first try, a hundred reasons why we broke up, a hundred reasons why we decided and called it quits. But if there’s one reason why we always wanted to come back, maybe that reason is too strong compared to the hundred reasons why we grow apart. That one reason maybe could bring us back together again. To start again, to add it in our memories, that time we might grow together again.

But people don’t always get lucky. Not all of us can get a second, third or fourth chances in lives. So when we have it, when we are able to grab those chances, we should keep it as an air in our lungs. Treasure it and don’t ever waste it.

Given us the familiarity, that certain voice or feelings, we should keep it alive. We should bury it in our hearts; no one can steal it, trust me it’s ours. 

This should be kept a worthwhile memory.

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POPEDOM: POPE Francis and His freeDOM… to touch our hearts

Dear Pope Francis,

            Viva Il Papa! Bienvenido!

 I don’t know how to speak in Latin but let me use my deepest language came from my soul to Thank you Pope Francis! You are so humble and genuine, though you are the highest leader of the Catholic church, still you showed mercy, you showed love from every Filipino, you showed hope, but most of all, you lift our spirits to know, to love and to trust again. You let us know that no matter what, Jesus Christ is always with us! That he loves us, no matter what position, no matter what status we are in.  Thank you for your concern, for the love, and for believing that we Filipinos can stand because we are always loved by our Heavenly Father.

            So for my greatest appreciation for you Pope, here are the words that touch our souls.

-“I’m here to be with you,” he said. “A little bit late, I have to say. But I’m here. I’ve come to tell you that Jesus is Lord. That Jesus never lets us down.”

-“But Jesus is there nailed to the Cross, and from there, he does not let us down. There, he experienced all calamities that we experience. Jesus is Lord, the Lord from the Cross, he is there for you!”

-“And I walk with you all with my silent heart.”

-“We have the security of knowing that we are not going to weaken in our faith, because Jesus has been there before us… In his passion, he assumed all our pain,”

-He encouraged the congregation to look to the maternal care of the Virgin Mary.“In the moments where we have so much pain, where we no longer understand anything, all we can do is grab hold of her hand firmly. And say ‘Mom,’ as a child does to a mother, when he or she feels fear.

-“Let us know that we have Mother Mary, and our older brother, Jesus. We are not alone.”

-“This is what comes from my heart, and forgive me if I have no other words to express this,” his homily concluded. “But please know, Jesus never lets you down. Please know that the love and tenderness of Mother Mary never lets you down.”

-“And holding onto her mantle, and with the love of Jesus on the Cross, let us move forward, always forward, and walk together as brothers and sisters in the Lord. Forward!”

-“When you lose the capacity to dream, you lose the capacity to love, and the energy of this love is lost”

-"You know how to give but you have not yet learned how to receive. Become a beggar. To learn how to receive with humility, to learn how to be evangelized by the poor. Do you know that you too are poor?”

-“If someone is gay and he searches for the Lord and has a good will, who am I to judge? We shouldn’t marginalize people for this. They must be integrated into society”

-“Inequality  is the root of all evil”

Sources:

http://www.rappler.com/views/imho/80761-pope-francis-quotes-ph-officials

http://www.catholicnewsagency.com/news/pope-francis-heartfelt-words-for-typhoon-survivors-jesus-is-there-for-you-80488/

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FutureMe.Org (What I'd Like to tell myself Ten years from now)

Dear *insert name*,


I hope everything's okay, I hope. I hope finally from now you realized what you wanted to be and fortunately you did what you have to do. If ten years ago, you wish to be become a star, I hope by now then, you already started to shine. If you want to color the walls behind you then I hope by now you started to see the fine lines. I am happy, just so happy just to be myself, to be the person ten years ago and to the person I become right now.

I know I did my best to be a better person, to be a human. I know last time some things didn't got so well, there are many things that's going on and I can't figure how to managed and solved it. But what's important is that I learn from it. I become strong and that's why right now I thanked my old self because of you I am stronger, I am wiser, I am braver than before.

You know yourself by now, I hope. Through the years, you've been hiding and seeking for your happiness, so by now I know you already found your lime light. You know what you wanted in your life, you are in control of finding what's relevant to you. But I know up until now, you still in a long adventure, you might make mistakes, horrible mistakes, troubled decision but I trust you because I know right now, you know how to live that kind of life and realizing that, it makes you more human.

Maybe by now you achieved all the dreams you once been dreaming of. You might struggle for it, but I know you'll fight for it harder. But even if you didn't get it, I know you'll run for it. The more you chase it, once you've get it, it became sweeter than ever. I know you're not alone, by now then you have so many friends and not just friends, but the kind of friend that you'll cherish and treasure. By now then, you fall in love, you stumble and cry but you'll find yourself falling in love again and finally finding your other half.

I am proud of you, because you always try to make everything okay. You finally find your missing soul.

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Letter to the guy who I almost Love

To my almost boyfriend;

                Wow, I would just like to tell you that I will not sugar coat everything about us. I will strictly come to the point. Why I even wrote this letter? Because I am scared, scared of being just your almost lover. Simple as that but harder to swallow. I like you. I like you since when you started talking to me about you, about your football games, about how you like your steak rare, about how your granny loves you and how you hate your dad. We got along together, we click like heels, we groove like a dancer. I like how you smile, how you treated me like a princess, like how say my name “Olive”, like how you get jealous so easily. I am not an easy catch and I can say that you win my heart, you got me, and you did your best to make me feel comfortable about us. I can’t blame you; you’re not hard as I thought. You got my wings fly. I am not expecting anything. But why you have to tell me not to talk to any boys in school? Especially Taylor? Why am I not suppose to eat alone in lunch without you? Why we have to hang out in weekends? I can’t find the answers because you never tell me.  Sooner or later I find myself falling so hard with your handsome face, I can’t resist the fact that I am head over heels with you. I love the whole you. But you just made me feel like a trash. Suddenly you’re too sweet but most of the time you ignore me. I can’t think hard enough. I don’t know the answers. Are you just using me to fill your dull moments? Or am I just feeling the wrong emotions for you? Is it because for you I am just a friend? Ouch. If so, then be honest with me sweety. I don’t want games especially in the name of love. I want the honest answers about this. Can you? Can you just honestly talk to me straightly?

Can you somehow not treat me your almost darling?

                                                                                                         Love, Olive (An almost love letter)

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WHY DO WE STAY ON INTOXICATING RELATIONSHIPS? LEAVE OR STAY?

People create the illusion of love. Why do we need to love? Why someone has to love? Is it really needed? For some quite reasons, YES, it is necessary. Just imagine why. You wouldn’t work so hard on that stupid office not if your love one’s depends on you. You wouldn’t study so hard on those stupid textbooks not if your mom whom you love wants you to learn and grow. You wouldn’t eat those damn green veggies not if you love yourself and your body.

Same things as here. Why do people stay on relationship that is full of sick lame gestures and is intoxicating? It is like you’ve eaten a lot and you’re already full but still you need to eat the remaining dish. Too much and you’re already going to vomit.

Too much is bad. Too much will make you feel like drowning.

But why do people have this power to swallow everything and just say “its okay” even though it’s not anymore?

We give our partner’s a chance- The reason why you keep on staying even though your heart doesn’t feel so happy is that you don’t lose the chance to hope that someday he’ll/she’ll change, for the better, for the both of you to be happy. You let yourself thinking that “I love him/her so I’ll wait” you wait and you wait. You stay because you know he’s/she’s better than that, he still can make you happy. She still can understand you.  At some point it isn’t bad, it can be three things (1) You love him/her so much that you are willing to wait (2) You’re just afraid to admit to yourself that there’s no turning back, that you made a mistake of choosing, of deciding (3) Your ego.

You get suddenly deaf by hearing the word ‘Alone’- Nobody wants to be alone. No one. If you want to be ALONE for the rest of your life then you better get your packs on and live on MARS. We all need someone, somebody to lean on, to give on, and to receive on. “No man is an island”. So just by thinking that you leave your partner, you became suddenly panic about the world “ALONE”, you can’t be alone right? You are afraid that after breaking up with your partner, you ended being alone. You suck on dates; you don’t know the right thing to do. You suddenly feel new about the dating cycle. But will you still stay even if you keep crying at night?

You’re afraid to leave “The one”- This is wrong, love isn’t about being assured, being assured that you should always have someone, assured that you will get home bringing something and nothing. But love is a game you see? You have to make a bet. How you’ll know if he’s the one or she’s the one if you’re not trying to make a chance of a lifetime to bet?

You thought about not moving at all- We are human and so we are not safe of anything, sooner or later we’ll all get hurt—by someone— strangers or even the love of your life. The thing is why you should keep on staying on a relationship that’s teaching you to move on SLOWLY and PAINFULLY? It is just the dead end, you have to MOVE ON.

There are two things either you stay or leave.

Stay- Okay, give them a chance, see what will happen, see if he’s/she’s keeping up. See if you can no longer take the pain, the hurt, see if you can still love the same person everyday but still keeps on hurting you, without him knowing it.

Leave- Take a gamble, decide whether to love yourself above all and choose to be happy. To choose to meet new friends and decide to achieve your pasts dreams, to live by yourself, to explore and learn more things about you, to take a rest and take everything slowly and finally to gamble again for falling in love.

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The A to Z language of Teenagers

ASL- “netspeak” term used from one person to another to ask them their “age, sex, and location.” It is usually used in a chatting situation with someone you don’t know.   

Bae- Term used to designate ‘Baby’ or ‘Babe’ for teenage couples. Like “Hey Bae what you doin’? Can you come here right now?” Quite they didn’t know that some languages used ‘Bae’ as a term for ‘Poop’. Yeah. ‘POOP’

Checkin out-  Going home or dying.  "That fool is goin' to be checkin' out tonight." To look at someone of the opposite sex in interest.  "Check out that blondie over there.”

Dude - A term to informally address an individual. An exclamation used when something is astonishing or amazingly cool. “Dude you better get up or else…”

Epic fail- If something fails though the work seems so easy. If a fail is a fail in life, then an epic fail is a fail of giant proportions.

Friends with benefits- A description for a type of relationship where friends enjoy casual sex with no strings attached. Purely recreational sex.  ""I saw you coming out of Gina's apartment this morning. Are you guys friends with benefits now?" Yeah Like Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake or Natalie Portman and Ashton Kutcher.

Gangsta- A gangster. One who acts, dresses and talks like a gang member.  "Jesse, what size are those pants? 45? You look like a gansta!"  Yeah “SHE’S DATING THE GANGSTA!”

Homie- Old word (derived from the Hispanic Americans who used "homes" as a label for others) that means friend or companion.  As for, “Yo Guys these are my homies!”

IDK- Acronym for “I don’t Know” Like who cares? Or does it really mean they don’t know. “IDK what are you’re doing”

Juiced- To get drunk or hammered.  "That kid is so juiced.”

K.Dot- Like to assess that “Okay whatever.” Or “Fine, you say so”. To end the conversation.

LMAO- Another acronym used in texting and secret code in reference to “laughing my ass off."  "When Jessica fell in that puddle I LMAO.”

MoMoL- Used specially in Philippines, Acronym for “Make-out, Make-out lang” Like foreplay. Usually used by couples.

Newbie (NooB)- Someone who is new to a particular activity, specifically a game, concept or forum. “Hi guys I’m a newbie here”

OOTD- “Outfit of the day” usually tagged in instagram accounts, twitter or facebook. Used to point out the dress, clothes or outfit that teenager’s wear.

Photo bomb- When a person or object is in a picture accidentally or intentionally and as a result, ruins the photo.

Queen- A homosexual male who is extremely flamboyant and exemplifies many female traits and gestures.  "I've seen some gay people in my life, but that fool is straight up a queen." 

Real Talk- Like saying “No, seriously dude, let’s have a real talk”. The Truth or something very serious. 

Selfie- Famous word used for taking pictures and having a solo picture.

Throw back - A vintage basketball or football jersey. Or a term used in social media accounts to designate a vintage picture, like an old photograph.

Unfriend-  To remove a person from your list of friends or contacts on a social networking site.  

Vogues- Wide wheels, sometimes with white walls.

Wapakels-  Like saying “I don’t give a damn”, “I don’t care” as to say “Whatever”

Xlicious- A term used to describe something that is pleasing to the eye, something that is beuatifal to look at, or someone who is dressed really nice.  "Yo, Henry lookin' xlicious in that suite!" or "That new Lexus is xlicious.

YOLO- An acronym for "You Only Live Once". A term often employed after making an irrational or snap decision.  “This is the best day of my Life #YOLO”

Zoned out/zonen- A term used to refer to the similar actions of daydreaming, unaware of the moment, usually lost in deep thought. The actions of a person who is intoxicated and unable to control their thoughts.  "Leave Matt alone. He's zoned out.

For more Slang Languages of Teenagers:

http://www.thesource4ym.com/SlangDictionary/SlangDictionary.aspx

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THE TEN BLUNT PHRASES YOU USE WHEN YOU’RE “IN LOVE”

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Falling In Love. Feels like Forever. Feels like unending, infinite, and it lasts forever. It brings us into many things, it made us feel the different emotions we thought we don't have and in the same way it taught us to survive in the world of fantasy and reality. Falling in Love has so many definitions. It has so many words and languages. It has so many feelings.

But here are some phrases/sentences that lovers usually say when things are still on the mountain top.


-We both felt it, I mean… the “sparks”

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-We have these special connections, you know, that kind of wire that connects us.

 

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-With you, forever won't be too long.

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-She’s/He’s the one for me. I know that

 

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-Life is incomplete without you.

-We have both the same likes, like music, he likes Foo Fighters and so do I.We understand each other, we are meant for each other.

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-Since the day I saw him/her I know she’s/he’s the one I’m gonna marry

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-He's/She's my True love, my happy ending.

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-I'm head over heels for you.

-We are perfect for each other

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Cheesy Gestures (Based on Movies) that’ll make your partner’s heart melts.

11. The Classic Boom box! (From the Movie ‘Say Anything’)

-          What else can you do once a guy outside your window brings some boom box and let the beat goes on? What else? Doesn’t the beat goes the same as your heart beat? Why not? It’s a classic gesture and teenagers mostly find it ‘ewww’ but what else can you missed with this kind of thing for love? It’s simple as sweet and it designates just how much you love your partner. Additional for the perfect music and that’s it. Plus, why not look up for the hottie John Cusack? WE MELT.

12. Singing in the open field (From the Movie ’10 things I hate about you’)

-          “You’re just too good to be true, can’t take my eyes off you, you feel like heaven to touch all I wanna hold you so much”…. Definitely one of the sweetest gestures of all. I mean how can you not say no to a guy who’s going to sing ‘Can’t take my eyes off you’ and sways and moves like a pro with some help from the band? And how can you not pee in your pants? Oh yeah well, it’s because of the late Heath Ledger and his curly long hair. I Missed that though. Well, it’s a great gesture to do and surprise your partner. You’ll find out that you have an inner sway, moves and a hot voice to sing this to him/her.

    

3.       Draw your Partner! (From the Movie ‘Titanic’)

-          Let your artistic side be known and let your fingers do the magic and touch your partner’s heart. It is so simple but once you’ve done it, it becomes extraordinary. Why? It’s because you draw the most beautiful piece you have. It is the eyes that catch your partner’s soul. You captivated their hearts. And once it is already done, you both look at it and there’s nothing sexier than that.

4.       Do the signature move! (From the Movie ‘Dirty Dancing’ and ‘Crazy, Stupid Love’)

-          Just imagine the signature move that Jennifer Grey and Patrick Swayze did along with the song ‘Time of my Life’, there’s nothing to compare on and it has the most magical moment once the lifting portion is shown. You can do it also, just what Ryan Gosling and Emma Stone did, and part of a challenge for them at first, but the move was also a sign of hotness. Both of you can enjoy this and to tell you, it’s the girl that’ll fly and soar high.

5.       A photography studio (From the Movie ‘A crazy thing called love’)

-          Simple as by doing capturing your partner’s lovely face and keeping his/her smiles and memories. It is by letting your partner knows that you adore them and more than anything else it is by saying they captured your heart just before the camera shots.

6.       Giving a CD Tape/Mix Tape (From the Movie ‘Perks of being a wallflower)

-          It’s like, letting her/him enter another part of your world it is because you let him/her know more about you. You taught your partner how to know you well and part of that is by giving him the tape you listen to and mostly the song you dedicate for him/her. There’s nothing sweeter than that, because just imagine you listen both to the kind of song that your hearts will always remember.

7.       Showing him/her the stars (From the Movie ‘A walk to Remember’)

-          Well not literally speaking, but of course you can show the stars for the love of your life, but most importantly it is by showing him/her the sparks and the light that these stars can give. I bet you get it right?

8.       Build your Dream… House? (From the Movie ‘The Notebook’)

-          If you’re man and you want to give the best for your girl, then the dream house is a good catch. But more of that, it is by building the dreams you both have, either abstract or concrete. 

9.       Take a motor ride after prom (From the Movie ‘The Prom’)

-          After the dancing and all in prom, why not bring your girlfriend into a night ride with your best buddy? Your motor of course not the car, because believe me, your motor is way hotter than your car by that night. Do it while having the song of Shout out Loud’s ‘Impossible’ then after that you’ll have the best prom ever.

10.       Sing to her the Bon Jovi Song (From the Movie ‘A lot like Love’)

-          Dude, it’s your best chance, sing ‘I’ll be there for you’ in your sweetest voice and bring your best guitar. Knock and surprise your baby with this kind of hot love song that for sure will melt her heart. Remember that Bon Jovi never gets out of line. He always rock.

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Why men in 20’s don’t settle down.

Men, just like women have so many issues in their life. Women speak out for that, but as for men, as defining them to be the powerful, strong, confident guy never speaks out for it. But to tell you the truth, they just keep it inside. So why does men sometimes lead to a break up after three months or two months of relationship? Why does it happen all over again? And it feels like they are finding something or maybe someone that they can’t find?

Well, some of the guys maybe don’t feel like turning their relationships into the next level or maybe they don’t need a girl to complete them— just for now.

But some other dudes there got a thing for girls, got an eye for a girl, got a heart for a girl but still some things pre-occupied their mind and let them to a thought that there is something lacking about them.

So what it is?

(1)    Friends

-Guys sometimes feels fine and are more attentive to their ‘happy times’ and ‘guy thingy’ they thought about more happiness, more adventures, and more stories to come out because of their friends that sometimes they forget about their romantic relationship. It is also the why some guys don’t settle down at 20’s because they thought of lacking time for his partner or for his friends, well either of the two when he’s not already ready he’ll just choose the latter one.

(2)    Career

-Well it is so obvious, that some professional and workaholic guys focus on their career and what more can bring our of this things. They look over for more opportunities in life and they enjoy mostly the time they spend for just working. Seems so impossible but some guys do that. So yeah, guys who are not ready to settle down mainly concerns more about their work and priorities in life that they somehow forget the love they once had.

(3)    Finding what path to choose

- It just mainly the belief of ‘finding their selves’, finding their identity’. It seems a phrase full of shit, but of course when you still find yourself, when you still want to learn more about you, you focus on yourself, you are minding your own. When this guys had a relationship in turns out that it didn’t work that well, it’s because they are unsure of some things and somehow they didn’t know where to start.

(4)    Immaturity and Emotionally unprepared

- Another thing is that some guys are still on the ‘boy toy thing’ nothing serious, nothing more. Just ready to play video games and collect characters of some superheroes and villains on his favorite magazine. Do you remember the movie ’40 year old virgin’? Steve Carell played a man who’s still a virgin, but to tell you it’s just that he’s not that ready and still immature about accepting things as a man and by the way part of it was his action figures.

(5)    Finding Mrs. Right

-Cheesy as it may sounds, but yeah it is somehow the reason why we go and push so hard on relationships but didn’t turn out well. Then we get tired of it and we choose to stop for some time. Then it’s just the thought of ‘he’s still looking for the right women’. And when he surely does, when that time comes, somehow those things that make him unprepared and unready will just turn upside down.

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She’s not a girl anymore but a woman (Tips for guys)

There are quite differences when it comes to Girl and Woman same with the Boy and Man. Well, this ideal for people who finds a partner who wants to settle down, who wants to be matured enough in handling a serious relationship and to luckily find your other half.

Men nowadays, thought that Girls are trending and Woman is scarcity. Usually it is about the time that guys find this ‘scarce’ woman in order also for them to have a partner that can understand them and can act independently and controlled themselves even in unusual ways.

Remember it’s not about the age. Sometimes even younger age of gals act like women.

1.       Girls think that Men understand their thoughts. Women speak words. This one is given. Girls actually feel that when they do think of something their man feels the same way as they thought but actually not. Because girls think differently from men. When women wants to voice out they actually do speak words and not hide it which actually a sign of maturity that men will actually understands.

2.       Girls wear fancy, sexy, revealing clothes. Women look sexy even if they only wear T-shirts. Girls wear fancy things, more accessories and revealing clothes it’s because they are more creative and enjoying the fashion trends in different blogs! But that doesn’t mean that women don’t do that kind of trends, they do only they wear it occasionally. Even if they only wear a simple shirt and pants they still look so damn hot and sexy. –that is a woman, no need some headbands and clips.

3.       Girls are still inside the box. Women are more of outside the box. Girls keep what they believe in what they know is right and wrong. When they simply think how the things matter to them that is their idea. But women actually think of a larger horizon, they not keep the ideas in a one box. They have many options and have larger thoughts of deciding and thinking about things.

4.       Girls watch. Women read. Girls mostly are fund of watching junk tv shows and enjoy for a moment. Women did much more of the reading, getting some ideas and learning’s about the novel. They get more perspectives about this.

5.       Girls are dependent. Women are independent. Financially, emotionally. Girls still need some guidance and of course expect someone for them to provide for their needs. While women are independent of this and you don’t need to pay the cab for them.

6.       Girls talk about matters. Women can stimulate conversations. Girls mostly lack the knowing in global affairs and don’t have much hobbies and interests. Women can handle conversations and can talk about it and will fascinate you still.

7.       Girls eat salad. Women eat whatever they want. Women eat healthily because they respect their bodies. Girls eat healthily to let everyone else know that they are eating healthily. A real woman will sit down and have a burger and fries with you, with no fuss. She knows she can and because she wants to, she will.

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THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SAY TO MEN

When guys do changes his expression that goes from happy eyes to glassy eyes then you definitely say something out of the border. Usually, guys are pretty accommodating with anything you say to them. They’re easy going and can put up with a bit of insults and let downs. But every now and then, there are a few things that may slip out of your mouth and hurt him way harder than you think. It is just simply means that men do have an ego and they have this kind of attitude that they made them to act like a man.
(1)  Man up- This is something you really shouldn't tell. You’re not his mother or sister to tell this to your man to grow up and act like a man. He is a man, so if something’s wrong about him, learn to communicate without insulting him.
 (2)  We need to talk- This is absolutely uncomfortable to him. This phrase is the most likely to shift him into defensive mode. Try a more loving approach and you will surely get better results.
(3)  I’m not your mother- Literally correct, but emotionally disturbing for a man. Keep your mom or his mom out of it. It is not really a good phrase for you to say to him.
(4)  Is she prettier than me?/Do I look fat?- Girls. Girls. Girls. Sometimes it is irritating to ask it every time. He’s not a fashion expert or a health instructor. Men don’t like asking questions about that, they find it so ‘girly’ and fancy. If the question you’re asking him has only one acceptable answer – and if a too-long pause in responding will only feed your insecurities – just trust that his answer would have been the right one and don’t bother to ask it.
(5)  Are you really that stupid?- Totally a NO. This is a word that will definitely hurt anybody’s feeling, not only your man. Treat him with respect and don’t act like you’re the main man and he’s the robin in the film. Man does have a pride, so don’t step on it and don’t belittle your guy.
(6)  You’re just like my ex- WORSE. Don’t ever compare him to your past. It is an awkward comparison, besides it’s like stepping again his pride. It’s like telling him that you’re not good for me and I wish my someone come and rescue me from you. It’s a no.
(7)  Never mind- Don’t dismiss the offers he had for you. Men like helping their girls even in the smallest thing on earth. They want to feel that they’re significant for their partner, or they want to be the hero in the scene. It’s their act of language, an act of service, an act of love. Don’t deny the chance for him to serve you.
(8)  Your friend is so charming!- Don’t tell it to him, especially when you haven’t complimented your guy about the same trait.
(9)  I've dated better guys- Just don’t hurt his pride okay? I mean it’s really an ‘ouchy’ phrase for you to tell it.
(10)  You’re insecure- Sometimes they may feel so insecure about things. But don’t say it aloud it makes him feel so weak and helpless.

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The Irony of Love

Love is crazy and so are people. We really don’t know what’s going on and why it has to happen. It is always unexplainable and unreasonable. The world is full of witches, werewolves, vampires, ghost and even monsters with one eye. You see it’s so magical and so is love. I imagine love as a crazy labyrinth that no one can escape and we were all going to be crazy. We are trapped in it.

I bet you know the song “Ironic” by Alanis right? I bet you know. “Well life has a funny way of sneaking up on you, when you think everything’s okay and everything’s going right and life has a funny way of helping you out when you think everything’s gone wrong and everything blows up in your face.”... “A traffic jam when you’re already late, a no-smoking sign on your cigarette break, it’s like ten thousand spoon when you all need is a knife, it’s meeting the man of my dreams and then meeting his beautiful wife and isn’t it ironic? Don’t you think?”

Same what is life brings to us then love it is.

The ironies of love.

- You love someone but this someone doesn’t like you either.

-Someone loves you but you never give a chance to that someone and yourself to love that someone back

-You had the right love at the wrong time (Somewhere Down the Road plays ♫♫)

-You’re on time but with the wrong love

-You left, he stayed.

-You came back for him, he leaves

-I love you, she loves you.

-You love her, I love you, and someone loves me too

- Say what, love? Why do you keep on messing with a good people with perfectly good hearts?

These are just some of the ‘funny’ stories in love. Some were afraid of fighting, some decided to let go, for some reasons you just notice that the one you love doesn’t love you back. Most relationships tend to fail not because of the absence of love, but because love is always present. It’s just that one was being loved too much, and the other was being loved too little. And that is true, in a relationship someone is stronger and the other is weaker, but that doesn’t mean the latter didn’t show his/her love. Most often, we fall in love with the person we think we love, but to only discover that for them we are just for past times. While the one who truly loves us remains either your friend or a stranger. When you think of your past love; you may view it as a failure; but when you find a new love, you view the past as a teacher. In the game of love, it doesn’t really matter who won or who lost. What’s important is that you know when to hold on and when to let go.  Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress. But why is it that the greatest irony of love is letting go when you want to hold on, and holding on when you need to let go? You can never find the right person if you can never let it go of the wrong. Love is a painful gamble, you didn’t know what will happen next and that’s the thing, you became stronger, you become whole. And in the most unexpected way of life can bring, there in that middle of billion people walking, talking, laughing around—there is just one person you love. Isn’t it ironic?

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