Showing posts with label Men. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Men. Show all posts

Friday, August 4, 2017

To all the boys we loved before

     

     **To the guy I’ve known for so long, who suddenly become my best friend, my super bud, my food buddy and my confidante, partners in crime for life right? Thanks for being with me all the time you never know how much I appreciate this kind of friendship that we have. It isn’t for just a good time, I know. It feels so easy to talk about anything with you and it feels so safe to share about my problems with you without being judged. I can get the most exact comments from you, no filter, no sugar coating of words, you just say the exact truth. We laugh at the most bizarre things, we act like brothers, we share the common grounds and I thank heavens for sending me a friend like you. No drama.

**To the guy I’ve already forgiven, now. Now is the time I guess, to fill my heart with forgiveness. I will never forget of course, but surely I can forgive you. I don’t want to dwell in that gloomy past. I love myself so I am forgiving you.

**To the guy I’ve met in a deserted lane. We’ve crossed the same path, made a quick glance to one another, held hands but eventually didn’t stay for too long, it’s okay. We didn’t push ourselves too hard. Maybe it’s right, it feels okay but not right for too long. It just happened that we’re walking on that lane for the same day, but have different journeys to take.

**To the guy I’ve hoped. I still didn’t get the chance to meet you or maybe I already did? I don’t know. Maybe we already crossed the path, tend to look on each other but never said anything. I’m wondering what kind of lesson I might get from you. But surely, we’ll know each other.

**To the guy I gave nothing but heartaches. I am deeply sorry. You met me at my worst, where all things just go wrong in my mind, where I can’t think straight, where my only concern is my well being. You love me but all I did was to break your heart. You’ll always be a part of my life, strange as it seems, I learned a lot from you.  Selfish to realize but yes, someone can love me and can offer his whole Universe.  Thank you and sorry, I know you’re doing well now and I wish you well.

**To the guy who crossed my path for a thousand times, I guess you’re free now. I can’t say more, cause all my letters in the past were always about you. So I’ll just stop here for good.

** To the guy, I’m giving my heart, please take care of it. Please have patience with it, please have it for a lifetime. Let’s be psychos, weirdos and crazy together. I can’t wait for the moment when the both of us are just two individuals, watching the sunset, watching the rain from outside, sipping coffee, reading books, going anywhere or nowhere, watching movies (Either X-men or Before sunset will do), telling our stories, fighting to worthless or significant topics we will encounter, or maybe just being us, just two individuals with the same insights and feelings. Let it be like an indie song. 

Saturday, September 24, 2016

Why we keep on coming back?



Dear _____,

I have a song for you.
“True love they use to say won’t leave you astray, but hey babe we can start all over again, we’re going home”. There may be a hundred reasons why we failed in the first try, a hundred reasons why we broke up, a hundred reasons why we decided and called it quits. But if there’s one reason why we always wanted to come back, maybe that reason is too strong compared to the hundred reasons why we grow apart. That one reason maybe could bring us back together again. To start again, to add it in our memories, that time we might grow together again.

But people don’t always get lucky. Not all of us can get a second, third or fourth chances in lives. So when we have it, when we are able to grab those chances, we should keep it as an air in our lungs. Treasure it and don’t ever waste it.

Given us the familiarity, that certain voice or feelings, we should keep it alive. We should bury it in our hearts; no one can steal it, trust me it’s ours. 

This should be kept a worthwhile memory.


Friday, April 22, 2016

10 WAYS FOR A HEALTHIER AND HAPPIER YOU; BETTER EACH DAY


It’s been quite awhile since I’ve been reading 365 ways of a healthier and happier you better each day by Jessica Cassity and before having this book I have a loooong way of figuring out which and why to buy a book for that day. Actually that day, I feel so down and uneasy with myself that I have decided to buy a book that will inspire me. (1) What career to choose on (2) Do I need to change directions? (3) Misdirection of what path to choose on (4) How to be happy and successful. These are the thoughts that keep on playing in my mind while I scan the books and find my perfect match.
I have come to like 6 books. (1) How to be successful in your chosen career (2) Things that scares you (3) Things that inspires you (4) Steps on moving forward (5) The answer to your questions (6) The book I have finally chosen.  I am really torn to number 1, 5 and 6. But I chose the latter. 365 days for a happier you, hmmm sounds good for spending 800 php for a book. It will be a great help for me every day since every time I can read just one page on it and then learn something from it to hopefully apply on that specific day. I haven’t finished the book yet, of course. But while I’m scanning, I have chosen ten things that I/You can do for a day and just ease your mind and somehow feel better than okay.

(1)   Television viewing doesn’t actually let you unwind – Instead, go for a walk or look at the nature outside if you really wanted to relax, cause watching TV, is not really for relaxation, it is for entertaining so having said it, your mind is still working. They’ve said that just by looking a tree outside, it will make you feel good somehow, because a tree represents hope.
(2)   Don’t skimp on sleep – Sleep deprivation will lead your brain to function below its full potential. If you have a presentation/exam tomorrow better prepared earlier and take a nap to refresh your brain because if you keep on studying even if you’re tired, 40% of the information will take in into your brain. (P.S Sometimes, this thing does not go well to many of us, but at least try some time and observe if it works on you).
(3)   Nix the iced tea to prevent kidney stones – According to Loyola University Chicago’s Stritch School of Medicine, if ice tea is your favorite thirst-quencher, you may likely to put yourself into having kidney problems. The culprit is oxalate, a chemical found in tea that is the key for the formation of small salt and mineral crystals. So, I might be ordering lemonade or water that can actually inhibit the growth of kidney stones.
(4)   Invest in Happiness – This is an all time favorite tag, yet it is true. Studies shows that spending money on shopping can make you actually feel better but sooner declines, but having to spend your money on a weekend vacation, having to learn diving or exploring the beaches or fell in love with the nature, it is much more satisfying and a good start to invest.
(5)   Deter dementia with higher education – European researchers have actually added to your pro-school list. If you’re thinking of going back to school again, chances are you reduce the risk of having dementia by 11%. Scientists found that for each year of education you accumulate, education somehow makes the brain better able to compensate for changes brought by dementia.
(6)   Addicted to your ex? Just wait it out – This is how it goes, researchers from New York and New Jersey looks at the brain of an individual who has been recently rejected. According to them, part of the brain that responded to the experiment while the individual was looking to photos of her ex was the same area that is active when cocaine addicts experience cravings. You see? It is an addiction, but an addiction to a person can be broken, unlike any other addiction, IT TAKES TIME.
(7)   Your slim-down secret weapon: A bus pass – It is just simply saying that, one way to slim down is by taking a bus for a ride because according to scientists, it actually helps you to lose weight! Plus, it saves you from spending money on your gas and parking!
(8)   Free yourself from the fear of failure – We all have been talking about this, don’t be afraid, try it out and work it out. “Fear of failure is related to a form of perfectionism, specifically what researchers refer to as socially prescribed perfectionism” according to David E. Conroy, PhD.
(9)   Protect your skin like a pro – Summer is really ON! And it feels like you’re too tired to celebrate summer when the sun is tickling your skin too much! So here’s a tip. Use a sun block instead of sun screen, because sun block has more broad spectrum and usable on all skin types, causing less irritations. Also, reapply at least every two hours while outdoors.
(10)The benefits of saying Thank you- Don’t let good deeds go un-thanked. Saying thank you can actually lead you to an improved mood. Reflect on the ways that others might actually did something to you and touched you, recognize this people by just simply saying thank you.

Thursday, March 24, 2016

What to do when you feel like giving up



             “Don’t stop believing… hold on to that feeling”
                                                                        -Journey
“It is not in the stars to hold our destiny but in ourselves.”
                                                            -William Shakespeare


There are moments in our lives when we feel like we are alone in this dark and empty room, that is full of the things we almost scared about, the things we don’t supposed to see and feel and the things that mostly, eat us alive. We are all human and it is given that we are capable of anything, anything that makes us humane. There are sudden moments in our lives that we feel unimaginably happy and excited, moments in our lives where we almost feel like a feather just floating in the air, or moments in our lives where we feel invisible or just walk into nothingness.
When we’re happy it carries us for a moment, but when we are so down it occupies the moment in our life. But don’t let it take you over.
Whoever you are right now, reading this, I want to help you get through this.
1.      

      You are never alone
Simply think that it is not only you who experience this kind of stuffs. The only difference is how you deal and act on it. Some may passes it by, some don’t actually care, some may be so depressed right now or some may actually thought that they’re bigger than what they’re facing for. And for that, you’re never alone. Share it to a trusted one, your family, your friend, your sister or brother, but most especially share it to your creator and savior.

2.       Remind yourself, why you started this.
Of course, there are reasons for all the causes. Why you ended up depressed or sad? Why give up? What’s the reason to give up? But the root of all these, why you started it off at first? And believe me, if the reason is too strong, you won’t give up.

3.       Don’t hate the player! Change the game!
If you really thought that you’re not good enough at that certain moment in your life, then don’t really hate yourself! Find a way to get what you want! Change the game! Be the rules! Don’t give up!

4.       There is sunshine after the rain
Cliché it may seems but even the song makes up a point. There are no up if there are no downs, no dawn if there are no dark. There is no harm in trying, give it a shot, don’t give up on the first try! And when you feel like you’re in the lowest point of your life, don’t let it knock you down!

5.      Be able to know when to quit.

Sometimes it is not time to give up. But it may be time to quit what you are doing and to try something else.  Giving up something you like is harder than to let go of the things you surely forget in an instance. If you feel like giving up or you are bored a lot, if you feel no real passion or excitement or curiosity change your course. But remember, do not give up if it’s really in your mind and soul, if the fateful bliss of yours keeps whispering to do it that this is the right thing to do, then why not try to do it again?

Saturday, June 6, 2015

A little Tribute to Guys out there: For men tough on the outside, but soft-souled on the inside:


I call all the boys out, yes all. This is your page and I am honoring you studs.

Dear Wonder ball,

                I assume right now you can say that you are alright and have nothing to worry right? I assume you can play video games and practice basketball and laugh it off with nothing to worry and hide, right? I assume that’s YOU on the outside. First, there’s nothing wrong about it. You guys intend to be strong, to be hard and to be tough… on the outside, and I guess that’s your nature. You don’t want someone to see you weaker than anybody else. But mind you, we are all human.

                I know deep down there is someone who can’t hide the truth. When anybody thinks that you are so tough and hard, I know you actually care for people you most loved, you just find it hard to express your feelings. And even if someone thought you actually judge and couldn’t care about anything, I assume you still care for what people might think about you. And even if you ignore or deny the compliments, I know deep down you really appreciates it.

            And even if you intend to feel okay outside after the toxic break-up, chances are, you really thought about it the whole time. You thought that this girl might be the one, and it troubles you deep down. And I tell you, it’s okay to cry. Someone may tell you that you don’t actually care about your relationship, but deep down stud, I know you really care for this girl so much that you are willing to give it all. And after some girl breaks your heart, you acted like okay-doky on the outside, and just trying to ignore the feeling, I know deep inside you cried your heart out because of pain, and I just want to tell you dude, that someone is out there waiting for you, waiting for that kind of love to be shared. So don’t use someone just to patch the hole of pain, wait for it and it will heal and when the right time comes, she is there exactly smiling at you. Don’t give up the being of a man.


                We girls might misunderstand you sometimes, and it’s because of your little nature. Like what John Gray’s book Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus.

Thursday, February 5, 2015

For Guys: Have her with your mouth (Better ways to communicate with your girl)



Dear Stagger guys,
                                I use the word “stagger” as an adjective and not a verb, for all the guys who mostly happened to be shaky and unsteady when it comes talking to your “special girl”, we’ve all seen this kind of scenario in movies, right? If you guys remember the movie I love you Beth Cooper, then mostly you know what I mean. I bet you also know the Sorcerer’s apprentice right? The guy staggers his words whenever he sees or started talking with the apple of his eye. Believe me, it only happens to be that unfortunate because these guys mostly fell out of love, fell out of sight and mostly, fell out of words.
                                Then here comes the guy who has all the confidence in the world, the football player guy, the varsity player and the hunky-dunky in campus. They all communicate well when they talk to their team mates, coach, teachers, or some other girls in campus but not to the one who they truly admire. And that’s where the issue comes.
                                Some other guys thought that talking too logical or too intelligent will make them superior in conversation leading to the false belief that this kind of talking will make their girl fall for their words, but some girl, they don’t buy it. They don’t actually swallow your word-tionary.
So, to make her finally decide that you’re someone’s worth talking to, and maybe someone’s worth wasting the night with, then here are some tips for you guys!
(             (1)    Don’t be too logical.
                                -Yes, it is good to hear some witty words to you guys, but not to the point that you overcome your girl’s emotion and believes. Believe me, it will hurt them. Thinking that this guy is being too logical for their first date is a no no. So try to listen and sympathize and move on after.
        (2) Don’t tell stupid things
                                -You know the stupid things, you know that. Now, when it comes to the girl don’t tell words that will make them think that this guy is too cocky or too selfish.
        (3) Have an answer
                                -This is mainly the thing, when she asks you “What do you want to eat?” most guys will answer “I don’t know, what do you want to eat?” The thing is girls and also guys don’t know what exactly we want or feel. So when they asked you give an answer, at least you made a comment, an idea for her to based, if she doesn’t likes your idea, then at least you could know, and if she does, then you win.
        (4) Don’t interview
                                -This is about getting to know the answer, not the case that the girl is applying for you as an assistant. Sure, you want to know her likes or what kind of things she get interested, but always remember that you like this girl and you want to know more about her, not in the matter that you have to interview her. Talk and have a real conversation.
        (5) Sorry not sorry
                                -Just stop saying the sorry. Putting the word sorry before and after the sentence makes you lame in front of her, plus it made some girls think that you truly made something wrong.
PLUS: A manly hand shake will always do the first introduction of you. Depending on how you acted on your firm grip hand shake with another man then somehow it defines how you firstly communicate with them. For your girls, have the proper hand shake if you know what I mean.


Monday, December 8, 2014

Letter to the guy who I almost Love



To my almost boyfriend;
                Wow, I would just like to tell you that I will not sugar coat everything about us. I will strictly come to the point. Why I even wrote this letter? Because I am scared, scared of being just your almost lover. Simple as that but harder to swallow. I like you. I like you since when you started talking to me about you, about your football games, about how you like your steak rare, about how your granny loves you and how you hate your dad. We got along together, we click like heels, we groove like a dancer. I like how you smile, how you treated me like a princess, like how say my name “Olive”, like how you get jealous so easily. I am not an easy catch and I can say that you win my heart, you got me, and you did your best to make me feel comfortable about us. I can’t blame you; you’re not hard as I thought. You got my wings fly. I am not expecting anything. But why you have to tell me not to talk to any boys in school? Especially Taylor? Why am I not suppose to eat alone in lunch without you? Why we have to hang out in weekends? I can’t find the answers because you never tell me.  Sooner or later I find myself falling so hard with your handsome face, I can’t resist the fact that I am head over heels with you. I love the whole you. But you just made me feel like a trash. Suddenly you’re too sweet but most of the time you ignore me. I can’t think hard enough. I don’t know the answers. Are you just using me to fill your dull moments? Or am I just feeling the wrong emotions for you? Is it because for you I am just a friend? Ouch. If so, then be honest with me sweety. I don’t want games especially in the name of love. I want the honest answers about this. Can you? Can you just honestly talk to me straightly?
Can you somehow not treat me your almost darling?
                                                                                                         Love, Olive (An almost love letter)



Sunday, October 12, 2014

Why men in 20’s don’t settle down.

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Men, just like women have so many issues in their life. Women speak out for that, but as for men, as defining them to be the powerful, strong, confident guy never speaks out for it. But to tell you the truth, they just keep it inside. So why does men sometimes lead to a break up after three months or two months of relationship? Why does it happen all over again? And it feels like they are finding something or maybe someone that they can’t find?
Well, some of the guys maybe don’t feel like turning their relationships into the next level or maybe they don’t need a girl to complete them— just for now.
But some other dudes there got a thing for girls, got an eye for a girl, got a heart for a girl but still some things pre-occupied their mind and let them to a thought that there is something lacking about them.
So what it is?
(1)    Friends
-Guys sometimes feels fine and are more attentive to their ‘happy times’ and ‘guy thingy’ they thought about more happiness, more adventures, and more stories to come out because of their friends that sometimes they forget about their romantic relationship. It is also the why some guys don’t settle down at 20’s because they thought of lacking time for his partner or for his friends, well either of the two when he’s not already ready he’ll just choose the latter one.

(2)    Career
-Well it is so obvious, that some professional and workaholic guys focus on their career and what more can bring our of this things. They look over for more opportunities in life and they enjoy mostly the time they spend for just working. Seems so impossible but some guys do that. So yeah, guys who are not ready to settle down mainly concerns more about their work and priorities in life that they somehow forget the love they once had.

(3)    Finding what path to choose
- It just mainly the belief of ‘finding their selves’, finding their identity’. It seems a phrase full of shit, but of course when you still find yourself, when you still want to learn more about you, you focus on yourself, you are minding your own. When this guys had a relationship in turns out that it didn’t work that well, it’s because they are unsure of some things and somehow they didn’t know where to start.

(4)    Immaturity and Emotionally unprepared
- Another thing is that some guys are still on the ‘boy toy thing’ nothing serious, nothing more. Just ready to play video games and collect characters of some superheroes and villains on his favorite magazine. Do you remember the movie ’40 year old virgin’? Steve Carell played a man who’s still a virgin, but to tell you it’s just that he’s not that ready and still immature about accepting things as a man and by the way part of it was his action figures.

(5)    Finding Mrs. Right

-Cheesy as it may sounds, but yeah it is somehow the reason why we go and push so hard on relationships but didn’t turn out well. Then we get tired of it and we choose to stop for some time. Then it’s just the thought of ‘he’s still looking for the right women’. And when he surely does, when that time comes, somehow those things that make him unprepared and unready will just turn upside down.