She’s not a girl anymore but a woman (Tips for guys)

There are quite differences when it comes to Girl and Woman same with the Boy and Man. Well, this ideal for people who finds a partner who wants to settle down, who wants to be matured enough in handling a serious relationship and to luckily find your other half.

Men nowadays, thought that Girls are trending and Woman is scarcity. Usually it is about the time that guys find this ‘scarce’ woman in order also for them to have a partner that can understand them and can act independently and controlled themselves even in unusual ways.

Remember it’s not about the age. Sometimes even younger age of gals act like women.

1.       Girls think that Men understand their thoughts. Women speak words. This one is given. Girls actually feel that when they do think of something their man feels the same way as they thought but actually not. Because girls think differently from men. When women wants to voice out they actually do speak words and not hide it which actually a sign of maturity that men will actually understands.

2.       Girls wear fancy, sexy, revealing clothes. Women look sexy even if they only wear T-shirts. Girls wear fancy things, more accessories and revealing clothes it’s because they are more creative and enjoying the fashion trends in different blogs! But that doesn’t mean that women don’t do that kind of trends, they do only they wear it occasionally. Even if they only wear a simple shirt and pants they still look so damn hot and sexy. –that is a woman, no need some headbands and clips.

3.       Girls are still inside the box. Women are more of outside the box. Girls keep what they believe in what they know is right and wrong. When they simply think how the things matter to them that is their idea. But women actually think of a larger horizon, they not keep the ideas in a one box. They have many options and have larger thoughts of deciding and thinking about things.

4.       Girls watch. Women read. Girls mostly are fund of watching junk tv shows and enjoy for a moment. Women did much more of the reading, getting some ideas and learning’s about the novel. They get more perspectives about this.

5.       Girls are dependent. Women are independent. Financially, emotionally. Girls still need some guidance and of course expect someone for them to provide for their needs. While women are independent of this and you don’t need to pay the cab for them.

6.       Girls talk about matters. Women can stimulate conversations. Girls mostly lack the knowing in global affairs and don’t have much hobbies and interests. Women can handle conversations and can talk about it and will fascinate you still.

7.       Girls eat salad. Women eat whatever they want. Women eat healthily because they respect their bodies. Girls eat healthily to let everyone else know that they are eating healthily. A real woman will sit down and have a burger and fries with you, with no fuss. She knows she can and because she wants to, she will.

Photovia: tumblr 

Read More

Epitomy and Symphony: When HIM finally met HER (List of the things that ...

Epitomy and Symphony: When HIM finally met HER (List of the things that ...: Do gals are the only one who believes in ‘Forever?’, ‘In happy ending?’, ‘True Love’, ‘Sparks’ and ‘Endless Love’? What about the dudes? ...

Read More

When HIM finally met HER (List of the things that Men usually did when he really Likes the Woman)

Do gals are the only one who believes in ‘Forever?’, ‘In happy ending?’, ‘True Love’, ‘Sparks’ and ‘Endless Love’? What about the dudes? Of course they do. Some of you won’t believe that or maybe you’ll just shake your head and disapproves. But to tell you the truth, SOME GUYS do believe in those things, that’s when they finally meet the RIGHT GIRL for them. And we don’t know about that, to tell you honestly, but maybe what are the things that could possibly lead you to believing that this guy has forever in his heart?

1.       When He thinks of you mostly. He starts the day thinking of you and end the day still thinking of you. It may be physically, or by texting or calling, but the great part ladies, is that your face is in his head. And it’s a nice point for you girls, because he’s crazy about you. Something might give him a hint that your personality is extraordinary.

2.       Even little things you did matters to him. Yup! No big surprises, even the little ones can get him into sparks fly. Men do appreciate that especially when it comes to their love ones. You may think it’s nothing but for them it’s the whole world to them and once it hit them so much there’s no turning back girls.

3.       He truly cares for you. He minds you a lot. Care what you’re doing; what you’ve been up to, he cares if you’ve eaten the lunch or dinner. He do all the caring because he’s treating you like a princess.

4.       Your imperfections are the perfect ones for him. It may sounds so cheesy but it does girls. Because he doesn’t see that in a bad way, he sees that as you, being true to yourself and therefore he loves it more.

5.       You laugh at crazy things and mostly only the two of you can only understand about it. That’s the thing about connections. You have a special wire that connects you and him. A simple look may mean something and you’ll get it in just a snap it’s because you understand him. That simple joke will make you the both of you laugh hard and will make even more funny when time comes.

6.       There’s no dull time. He doesn’t mind if you’re not doing interesting or something. Sometimes, man has a full time potential of by just looking at your beautiful face.

7.       He wants you to be there in his special occasions. He wants you to be there to witness his success, his triumphs because It means that you are part of it and he wants to show you that this man is more than anything else to prove to you that his good enough and man-up.

8.       He wants you to be there even in the saddest moment of his life. Well, true enough maybe he doesn’t tell you this, but girls it is important for a man to know that you’re there to listen. LISTENING is enough, enough talking so much I will only irritate them.

9.       He doesn’t laugh about your insecurities. He didn’t make it so hard to be an issue but instead he listens and tries to be a friend in your most ‘girly’ times.

Well honestly, there are more of that. We can’t measure how a Man loves his Woman, but whatever it is when the time is actually right and the moment is all set and done. He’ll just know that you’re the ones for him. 

Photo via: Tumblr

Read More

10 THINGS THAT OUR FATHERS TEACH US

(This may be your mother or both of them, nonetheless, they’re both heroes in action)

(These things maybe unconscious or not)

1.       He taught me how to dance- Just like in the famous line song ‘Oh How I love to dance with my Father again’, it is obvious that our fathers bring the dance floor for us. But before it’s too late, unconsciously they are the crazy dancers in the family. They just do the crazy grooves and steps at the beat of MJ’s songs. But when that specific song designated to play on your 18^th dance, it is particularly the most heart whelming dance you’ll ever had. Just one foot ahead and he’ll take the lead.

2.       He taught me how to ride a bicycle- First ever feeling of trying so hard to run a bicycle? Feels like crap. Can’t do the balance thing, but he’s there to hold the bike. Can’t run the bike on my own. He’s still there to make it run. First ever feeling of having scars on your knees? And you feel like shit. But someone will lend a hand and he’s up there smiling cause after all you heard that it’s part of it and you’re doing good. And you feel like exhausted cause you’ve got a wound bleeding and your dad said you’re doing well.

 First ever feeling of riding a bike and you feel like superman flying, feel like a jaguar for running fast, and feel so strong and carefree. You feel like a hero. Then there he is waving at you. Somehow you learn to manage to run the bike, thanks to him.

3.       He taught me how to sing- Song pieces of The Beatles, Beegees, Carpenters, and Scorpions etc. You just have to sing it and memorize the lyrics. You’ll have a duet for some time. Then after a countless of rehearsals, one day you’re in the stage and ready to be named ‘contestant #1’.

4.       He taught me how to play a guitar- First major keys, then the minors, then the flats, it makes my fingers swell. But he’s the dude who always wanted to have a big jam back at home. A little Hey Jude song would be the remedy.

5.       He taught me how to play sports- Fathers, when it comes to sports are really serious. They have big consciousness when it comes to sports—outdoor or indoor. They are the ones who taught us to play basketball, that first lay-up, those first free throws, and how to box out. They are the ones who taught us in their most dull times on how to play chess, the big role of the Queen and the ‘L’ move of the horse. They are the ones who sometimes played with us. Doesn’t matter if it is volleyball, soccer, and football or even scrabble. It is just that they are fascinated with sports.

6.       He taught me how to court- In some guys you probably would say a big NO. But unconsciously, your fathers taught you the big ideas on how to make a woman fall in love to you. You may see the ideas of how your fathers treat your beloved mothers, you may sometimes heard some quick tips or maybe if you have the guts, you just asked them how. Whatever it is, they are the rulers in this game.

7.       He taught me how to love action films- Name it, Jean Claude Vandamme, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Sylvester Stallone, Jackie Chan, Mel Gibson and many many more. I just first saw them when I was a child since when my father let me watch their famous films. And no wonder I heard him shout sometimes, it’s because somehow, I also loved the way it was done.

8.       He taught me how to choose my best team- There’s this kind of cycle, that when you’re child, you somehow also choose the team that your father most make the bet and love to cheer at. You seem so amaze back then, on how he terribly disappoints, once his team loses and how he greatly jump when it wins. But somehow, you also choose the team he favored the most.

9.       He taught me how to make a great coffee- Coffee is basically the basic beverage for fathers, it lies along with a good breakfast and a trendy newspaper. Afternoon would be like the same, except you’re the one who’s  going to make the coffee and somehow you learned the trick on how to make it tastes good based on how he likes—black or creamy.

10.   He taught me how to be myself- We, especially the boys look up to their fathers us their heroes, as their idols, as their superman. We somehow wish to be like them when we grow old, cause we respect them and we idolize them.  As we are growing old, we learn to appreciate the fact that somehow we are different from them. We can’t be like them because every people are unique. We just take guidelines to them but we can’t be like them. They just help us to know ourselves better and therefore, appreciate that we are individuals and we need to be US.

Ten is not enough. There are more of these things that they taught us. Whatever it is, I am sure that our fathers love us no matter what we are. Just like 

Read More

The Kind of Love I wanted

THE KIND OF LOVE THAT I WANT.

(Or maybe you tooJ

                Honestly speaking, I am scared of Falling in Love, especially if there’s no one to catch me when that time comes. But as I learned, Love isn’t like that. You should have the determination and courage to fight for it to be on it, whether to catch you or not. I am in love with beautiful Love stories, some of them I know, but of course there are still many stories untold all over the world, and I’d love to know that. I don’t know what kind of love has destiny or God has planned for me. But if I am to dream, I want this kind of love. The kind of love that is pure and innocent, the kind of love that is not selfish. The kind of love who’ll give me the lessons in life, to experience life beyond through this, to hug the world and see it— more of it. I want the kind of love that is playful, that is imaginative and at the same time is in reality. I want a fantasy for a special moment, for a thousand reasons of days to live and love. I want the love I deserve mostly, to what I deserve. I want the kind of love that I’ll meet the other half of my soul, of my heart, of my body. Nothing is more magical than this, to meet your lifetime partner and best friend. I want the kind of love that will be the best even in the worse kind of situation, the love that will give me the strength and not the painful weaknesses, I want the love that’ll give me hope and chances to breathe. To hold that specific moment and to hug my guy and kiss him in the rain, to be there whenever we needed each other, to make the most of it, to bring the best out of ourselves. The kind of love that gives and receive, the kind of love who understood the happiness and the sadness, the triumph and the pain. The kind of love that will be right for the both of us. The kind of love that will all feels like the first time. The kind of love that GOD will be the center of our relationship. The Man that I’ll be with forever, I thank you.

Read More

Coping with flashbacks

1. Tell yourself that you are having a flashback, and that you are safe now.
2. Remind yourself that the worst is over. The feelings and sensations you are experiencing are memories of the past. The actual event has already occurred and you survived.
3. Breathe. When we get scared we stop breathing normally. As a result, our body begins to panic from the lack of oxygen, which in itself causes a great deal of panic feelings; pounding in the head, tightness, sweating, feeling faint, shakiness, and dizziness. When we breathe deeply enough, the panic feeling can decrease. Breathing deeply means breathing in so that your diaphragm expands. If you were to put your hand on your stomach, your stomach would push against your hand when you inhale.
4. Get grounded. This means stamping your feet on the ground to remind yourself that you have feet and can get away now if you need to. (There may have been times before when you could not get away, now you can.) Being aware of all five senses can also help you ground yourself.
5. Reorient to the present. Begin to use your five senses in the present. Look around and see the colours in the room, the shapes of things, the people near, etc. Listen to the sounds in the room: your breathing, traffic, birds, people, cars, etc. Feel your body and what is touching it: your clothes, your own arms and hands, the chair, or the floor supporting you.
6. Get in touch with your need for boundaries. Sometimes when we are having a flashback we lose the sense of where we leave off and the world begins, as if we do not have skin. Wrap yourself in a blanket, hold a pillow or stuffed animal, go to bed, sit in a closet, any way that you can feel yourself truly protected from the outside.
7. Get support. Depending on your situation you may need to be alone or may want someone near you. In either case it is important that your close ones know about flashbacks so they can help with the process, whether that means letting you be by yourself or being there with you.
8. Take the time to recover. Flashbacks can be very powerful. Give yourself time to make the transition from this powerful experience. Don’t expect yourself to jump into other activities right away. Take a nap, a warm bath, or some quiet time. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Do not beat yourself up for having a flashback.
9. Honour your experience. Appreciate yourself for having survived that horrible time. Respect your body’s need to experience a full range of feelings.
10. Be patient. It takes time to heal. It takes time to learn appropriate ways of taking care of yourself and developing effective ways of coping in the here and now. 

Read More

How to feel better

1. If you like someone, wait.
2. Give lots of compliments, even if you’re shy. Everyone else is too.
3. Change. Get a haircut, try new perfume, get new sheets. Become better than you were before.
4. Eat healthier. Learn to cook something fancy.
5. Get up earlier and watch the sun come up.
6. Wear soft clothes, take a bath, drink something warm.
7. Meet someone new, even just a friend.
8. Become closer with your friends and your family. Call your mother. Cry with your best friend. Tell everyone how much you appreciate them.
9. Keep your room clean. Buy some candles. Let the natural light in. 
10. Make a list of reasons why you’ll be better off without them. Believe they are true, because they are. 
11. Listen to new music. 
12. Write everything you’re thinking and feeling. Write letters. Write happy letters, sad letters, and angry letters, even if you’re never going to send them.
13. It’s okay to be sad, but not forever. Sadness is not as beautiful as music makes it seem. Lack of sleep makes your eyes droopy, not deep. Wake up every morning and tell yourself you’re going to have a good day.
14. Go to the library. Don’t forget to look in the music section. 
15. Remove them from your life. Get rid of the things they gave you if they make you sad. They’re not worth it. You will never be happy if you continue to hold on to the things that make you sad.
16. Make new memories.
17. Try to find something to appreciate in everything you do or experience.
18. Being alone is okay, you don’t have to surround yourself with people. 
19. Become your own best friend. Buy yourself coffee and drink it alone in a cafe. Take your time. 
20. Learn to love every bit of yourself.

Read More

A list of things your mother will forget to tell you

1.) There will be boys who say sweet words that melt your heart, and they won’t want to just “get in your pants.”
2.) Everyone will hurt you some time or another, even the people who promise they won’t and aren’t supposed to.

3.) There are going to be days where you can’t go to school because you’ll be too tired from a sleepless night of over thinking.

4.) Everyone is going to leave you at some point in your life but sometimes the really special ones will come back.

5.) Sometimes the people you cannot live without, can live perfectly fine without you.

6.) You’re going to be young and fall in love and there’s a chance that will be the person you will marry, or just another person who will leave you with memories.

7.) Not everyone will be happy with your success and not everyone will be sad with your loss.

8.) There are going to be people you are close to and then suddenly one day you don’t talk and there’s not a good reason as to why

9.) People are going to make fun of you and you are going to stand out but you’re going to need to realize that everyone does this to everyone and even though it doesn’t make it right you’re going to have to learn to deal with it.

10.) There is going to be one day when suddenly no where feels like home until the day when your lips touch his, when you look into his eyes, and he wraps you in his arms and suddenly, there you are, home.”

Read More

Things that steal your happiness

It is easy to be miserable but so hard to be happy— the real happiness everyone desires. It is easy to nag on your job, on your life, on your partner, on your family, on your business—it easy to find a root for you to be alone, depressed, sad and therefore far from your happiness. At some point, Angel Chernoff wrote the 10 Habits That Steal Your Happiness and I am here to sort of discuss these habits that usually ruin you, consciously or not.

(1)   Focusing on everyone’s story except your own.-What other people business are not yours to mind on. Remember, you have your own life and of course they have. Don’t depend on other stories of success, of victory. You have to bring your own shot in life.  You have everything you need to become what you are capable of becoming. It is you that controls your life so keep that in mind.

(2)   Waiting for the perfect moment.- Not true. If I had to answer I would say definitely no. There is no such thing as perfect, and therefore there is no perfect moment.  You don’t have to wait for the perfect stars to align, or for your horoscope to tell you that today is perfect, you don’t have to believe that in this day when it’s perfect it is all good. The real thing is that it’s your willingness to do that decision and feeling right about it. You will come to succeed not by finding a perfect moment, but by learning to see and use life’s imperfections perfectly.

(3)     Working for nothing more than a paycheck.- Work without interest is imprisonment. What I just wanted to say is that work and enjoy then you got pay. It’s not all about the money darling, you live by it day by day so why not enjoy working and got pay at the same time? Think about it.  This is your life; your work will fill a large percentage of it.  It’s not all about the money; it’s about you.  Ignore the propaganda, especially from people who say, “Don’t let your work define you.”  Reverse this message and mediate on it:  “I will do work that defines me.” 

(4)     Harboring feelings of hate.- Hate cannot be cured with another hate. As Martin Luther King Jr. so profoundly said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that.  Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”  It will only eat us and will make us blind in order to see the light of happiness. Forget of hating and just love. You only live once. Don’t make fuss about it.

(5)     Holding tight to worries and fears.- It is usual for us to worry to fear something about anything or about someone. It is inevitable. But what is wrong is if we keep holding on to it and never letting go then from there we forget the simplest thing on how to be happy. When you start peeling them off, all the worries, fear and strange feelings will all be gone and a happy productive person will show.

(6)     Dwelling on difficulties.- A bad day is just a bad day.  Choose not to make it anything more.  Take note of the idea that every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day. Don’t let this difficulty let you down and suddenly change your day into nothing but a frown. Every day brings new lessons and new possibilities.  There is always a way to take the next step forward on the path you've chosen.

(7)     Constantly seeking fleeting contentment.- There are two variations of contentment in life – fleeting and enduring.  The fleeting type is derived from instants of material comfort, while the enduring type is attained through the gradual growth of your mind.  It is known that the latter is superior to the other.

(8)     Trying to make a big difference all at once.-Don’t try hard of making a big difference by just a snap.  If you want to make a difference in the world, start with the world around you.  However, instantly making a difference in a few lives is entirely possible and usually fairly easy.  You just have to focus on one person at a time and start with the one closest to you. There are some points that you didn’t know that you’re making a big difference on other’s life. Just stay positive and touch other lives not because it’s your job but because you wanted to make a difference however, not all at once.

(9)     Holding on to someone who hurts you.- Let go and move on. Sometimes you just have to let someone go and walk away. But don’t let the idea turn you down. When someone closes the door for you, take heart the window will open.

(10) Over-amplifying the importance of physical attractiveness.-Infatuating yourself with someone simply for what they look like on the outside is like choosing your favorite food based on color instead of taste (Papertowns).  It makes no sense. There are some things that cannot buy just because of the outside looks, you have to look deeper, for a more meaningful idea.

Read More

MOTIVATE YOURSELF!

Sh*t happens. All the time.

You make mistakes. You screw up. Things don’t go the way you hoped..

There are times when we feel so down, depressed, sad, insecure and suddenly we just feel that the there is something wrong with you or the people around you. Sometimes, we don’t have the verge to tell it to anyone maybe we’re shy, clueless of what will they think, keeping your pride or just sometimes you feel at that moment that you don’t have a friend and you’re alone. Sometimes we all think that we’re insignificant, that we can’t do these tasks ahead of us and we have no direction in life.

It’s not a disease people. We all came to the point of acting like Edward Scissorhands being so depressed and cover yourself with sheets. We don’t have that thing. We can still manage to live a life beyond imagination. We can achieve dreams and set for our goals and aspire for it. We can still motivate ourselves and learn through it. People’s minds are so powerful.

Whilst I’m certainly no expert at this whole life game, there are a few methods I’ve found that work quite well for me when I’m feeling stuck in a rut.

(1)  Write down the problems that makes you feel down

It is a way of realizing and at the same time contributing to your state of mind as a way of dealing with all these problems whether it’s a small thing up to the biggest issue of your life. It will make you somehow make a plan of how to deal with it and then there comes of how motivating yourself through it. It’s the first step of realizing what should you deal with these problems in your life.

(2)  Let go of the ideal plan.

We have to accept it, not all of the things we used to plan will turn out that way. It was a way of planning in order for your mind to organize things in that day, it is what you made up. But reality is unpredictable; no one can plan ahead of things. It is always surprising. Don’t expect that what you plan will eventually happen. You have to accept the things that change that unfortunately didn’t go as what you had planned.

 “To help yourself, you must be yourself. Be the best that you can be. When you make a mistake, learn from it, pick yourself up and move on.” Dave Pelzer

(3)   Take baby steps

It’s like doing tasks from the smallest to the biggest. If you think that problems occur as a whole bunch of shits then you would figure that you can’t make it and it is just so hard to try to do it. So the cure here is take baby steps. Start from the bite-size tasks and work out a timetable for getting it done.  Don't be too ambitious otherwise you'll fall behind and end up back at square one, but plan properly and give yourself a reasonable window of time to get each piece in place. No huge success starts from what it is, it always starts from the very beginning.

(4)Set some goals

Without goals, you probably will not know if you are really accomplishing anything. Set some small goals and then try your best to achieve it and work hard. It will be good practice for you if you have not done that before.

(5) Find out what motivates you – it is not the same for everyone.

It seems like the answer of the question but it is true. Find what’s inspiring you. We all have this kind of different things that will boost our energy and therefore making us inspired again or motivated to do the tasks. For example, some people find comfort through money, music, family, relationship, TV shows, movies, or idolize actors. Whatever it is, it is one of the ways of inspiring yourself that will lead you to be better and find comfort again and so will guarantee that you’ll work will done finish.

(6)  Find Your Itch 

What is keeping you from working. Don’t let the itch continue without isolating it and removing the problem. Are you unmotivated because you’re tired, afraid, bored, restless or angry? Maybe it is because you aren’t sure you have time or delegated tasks haven’t been finished yet.

(7)  Deconstruct Your Fears 

If you need to achieve those tasks, destroy the entire negative aura especially the fear. I’m sure you don’t have a phobia about getting stuff done. But at the same time, hidden fears or anxieties can keep you from getting real work completed. Isolate this fear and you’ll make yourself confident again to handle the cases around you.

(8)  Start with just five

Try the five minute rule.  Tell yourself this simple phrase: "I'm just going to work on this for five minutes. Five minutes and then, if I want to, I can do something else for a while." The five-minute rule works magic. You know why? Because more often than not that little push will be enough to get you going and keep going until you've finished the task. It’s like having yourself work and then take a break and it will not hassle you or panic you. You’ll definitely make things work out by then.

(9)  Think outwards.

It is easy to think the negatives than to try to imagine the positive. It is easy to pity oneself but hard to motivate. But actually you just need to think outwards. Look at the ways that can help you maybe it’s our friends, partners, family members and by just accident even the strangers. You’ll find that everyone you meet has problems. You’re not alone.

(10) Move your body.

Exercise can be great if used in a constructive way. It’s a good way to get back to our primal roots, and hit the reset button on those negative thoughts. My head usually feels a lot clearer after a run, climb, grapple or workout. It’s like meditating yourself throughout it. A little exercise can somehow make you feel good and refresh and therefore, will let your mind to think better and not pushing yourself too hard..

(11)Take a rest.

Relax. Take a deep breath, and slow down. It’s not like all problems are manage by you. All people have that. But some learned to manage it well. Take a meditation session, a hot bath or a massage. A long nap perhaps. We all get tired and we need a rest. Maybe after that you’ll find yourself again heading forward.

(12) Shout it from the rooftops

Don’t keep it too much from yourself or inside your chest. Shout it out. It will make you feel good somehow. Tell the world and your pride and self respect won't let you back down.

(13) Embrace gratitude.

Think of this. You think all of the problems you have but you forget to acknowledge the things you have, the blessings you have.  Remind yourself that you are grateful for the things you have and some other people are still finding it. Even mistakes and challenges. They’re opportunities to see what we’re made of. They give us a chance to grow. Remember that being happy doesn’t mean you have no problems at all. It means you’ve become better at dealing with them.

YOU CAN MAKE IT. I BELIEVE IN YOU. HAVE A GREAT DAY 

Read More

Ways to spice up your life

Spice up your life.

1. Move your ass- you may think that staying on house, sleeping, drinking the usual drink, eating the necessary or watching old movies inside your room with your pet yawning- is the total kickass for weekends or even on holidays then you are totally nuts.  Move your ass out of that bed or couch and see the world outside darling. It’s on my own perception and also happened to me that world outside is more magical and awesome. Stay out of the box and show your new shoes in the catwalk.
2. Learn something new- this is actually belongs on my bucket list since I know that it is an important must do’s in life. Just think about it, don’t you feel bored on the same or usual things that are always, ALWAYS happening and keep on repeating? Like the usual daily habits? Then you must be the great break stopper on that cycle.
3. Meet new friends- not that your usual friends are boring, or you always talk about the same thing, same scenario but I mean meeting new friends is like adding another life lessons to your lifetionary. New friends means, new adventures, new fun, new perspectives, new hangouts, new companions. But be careful on choosing your ‘new friends’.
4. Overcome your fears- overcoming your fears also means of letting another adventure in your life, I mean if you finally step out of that line then you probably added a new scenes in your life that you’d never done before. Recognize that your fears reflect areas where you can grow.
5. Write a letter to your future self- this is one way of telling yourself in the future about the dreams, the plans or expectations you have. It’s like mirroring yourself and talking about the great possibilities ahead of you. It is also like having a positive mindset about achieving your dreams in the future or maybe like telling yourself the difference of you in yesterday and in the future.
6. Make your own bucket list- simply means putting all the dreams or plans you had, short term or long term. You’ll just feel the happiness once you’ve check the box when you finally achieved those goals.
7. Get out of your comfort zone- challenge yourself and be better. Do not stick yourself into something that you already know, why not try something and do something that’ll make you happy inside?
8. Identify your blind spots. Scientifically, blind spots refer to areas our eyes are not capable of seeing. In personal development terms, blind spots are things about ourselves we are unaware of. It’s like discovering yourself into a new whole perspective  of your life.
9. Acknowledge your flaws. Everyone has flaws. What’s most important is to understand them, acknowledge them, and address them. Once you finally accepted it, it will be like a refreshment to yourself and therefore opening yourself to try again.
10. Quit a bad habit. –just quit. If isn’t that good to you or not giving you the life you should have then quit. It’s hard to do it, but what’s important is to try to develop yourself and leaving the bad ones.
11. Let go of the past. Is there any grievance or unhappiness from the past which you have been holding on? If so, it’s time to let it go. Holding on to those things will just keep you from moving and therefore holding you back. You’ll just lose yourself for accepting the opportunities that is given to you. Open your eyes, open your soul.

Read More

To all the girls he loved before (Mr. Casanova)

"To all the girls I've loved before who traveled in and out my door I'm glad they came along I dedicate
 this song To all the girls I've loved before To all the girls I once caressed And may I say I've held the best For helping me to grow I owe a lot I know To all the girls I've loved before"

--

This is how the usual guys would sing a song for all the girls he used to loved before. If you already watched movies like 'Made of honor', John Tucker must die', 'Playing for keeps' and other movies that features a man who cannot commit a long term relationship then definitely you have an idea about this. 'I can't be the man'/'It's not you, it's me' or 'I need to find myself' are just the few stupid lines he just made up to leave you in the dust. And I'm sorry cause you have to meet a guy like that. Sometimes some guys just born like that, but sometimes they have some reasons TO BE like that. And you Casanova, I'm sorry if you have been hurt before. Then there comes the time when he didn't know how to face the problems that he cannot fix. He is too scared to face his own fears. Since his heart was broken once, he feel the need to break a million more to settle the score. But that's not right. Not because you are hurt once then it doesn't mean you have the will to hurt anybody. And girls there are signs when a man is not ready for anything especially reminding him that you're only for 1 week expiration date. But as for you Mr. C. we are hoping that sometime you'll find the spirit of molding the broken pieces back again and one day you'll meet that girl, that one girl who'll help you throughout of bringing back the love and trust that once broken, then just like that you'll ready to love again.

Read More

WHY DO GIRLS FALL FOR THE ‘WRONG’ GUY?

Does he leave you hanging in the dust? Does he tell you that he’s not into you? Ouch. Well I think that’s really a hard one. Why do every girls fall to the complex guys in town?

 I remember this line once while watching 13 going on 30, this girl ask J.Garner “How come the ones you like, never like you?” I mean its stupid right? Someone like you, don’t you ever think to like them back too? That’s when free will comes.

But really, why we have this common question that we girls fall for the complex guy? I have this friend (let’s just name her Pam) that has guy friend (name it as Jack) at their school and they were like really super close that they treat one another as the best guys on Earth. They are both singles and also both ready to commit. Jack brings the best things just for Pam. For an instance, Jack treats Pam so special than any other girls in school. Jack always brings something special just for Pam and Pam consider it as sweet and something more than just being friends. And that is the issue. Cause after some time, Pam finds out that Jack is in love with other girl. And that was like a wakeup call for Pam to wake up and be alert.

(1)   Sometimes, we girls do assume that the guy who’s treating us ‘differently’ likes us back the way we like them, which is totally not an A+ grade. And because we assume that he likes us, we tend to fall in love with them and after learning to love them we find out that he’s not liking you back the way you like them only because you assume that he likes you because of the small sweet things he did to you, It will only be considered a fact if the guy truly and admittedly tells you that he’s into you or he loves you. In short, you misinterpret the things he did for you.

But don’t worry; sometimes it’s not really our fault.  

(2)  Guys sometimes give false hopes. There are guys who treat every other girl special only because they want or it’s in their guts to do that thing without any shame on their body. There are signs that you can tell that this guy is not really serious about you and just giving you nothing.

(3)  Usually guys treat the girl he really likes or he’s into. The fruit of the tree is that, he’s not ready for any commitments. So the thing is, he’s trying to make up with you, tries to hang out with you and have a meaningful conversation but in the end, nothing happens. Nothing runs out the line, only because he’s not ready.

(4)  Then there are guys who’ll court you and will make you the luckiest girl living on planet. But after some days hanging out and making stories of your own, he will just leave you. Why? Some guys are so confuse about everything and anything especially about their selves.  They are not so sure about them being serious on a relationship, or maybe confuse about their status and sadly about his feelings about you. So the tendency is that you fall but he didn’t know if he really loves you that much. 

(5)  Guys of course are not matured enough to handle you or the feelings they have for you. When you declare your love to them, they’ve been thinking about it all day but guys really don’t know what to do. And it may hurt you maybe by the way he’ll tell you but he’s not matured enough to handle that.

(6)  Girls give the wrong impression.

(7) Girls sometimes like the guys they’d usually seen on movies, on videos or on shows. ‘OMG Channing Tatum is so hot on step-up’! Then there’s this guy you really like on school that is good on dancing and you find him cute or whatever. Then you make friends with him and accidentally you fall. That’s the thing. He only lives in fantasies.

(8) Sad but true, but usually we believe in their sweetest lies and simply because that wrong guy usually says the right words for us to believe in them. Woman tend to like smooth talkers who say what they want to hear, to bad 99% of them are sociopathic liars.

(9)  Girls are people. So we decide, we made the wrong choice and we fall and ditch. And that’s how life goes. But we learn from it. We may fall to the wrong guy that we’ll hurt us and broke us apart, but who knows? Because of it we learn from our mistakes and we learn to control our little butterflies on our stomach.

Whole life coaching focuses on your entirety as human being. We have physical, emotional, mental and spiritual aspects that make up our whole being. These aspects are interdependent and require harmony. If you are attracted to imbalanced men, then look into the mirror to see that you are holding imbalance within your being. It may be a belief that you are not worthy of love and care, or that your needs do not matter as a priority. We can only experience what we can receive in a relationship.
We accept the love we think we deserve. (The perks of being a wallflower)

Read More

THINGS THAT EVERY GIRL WISHES HER MAN KNOWS

Why guys are so insensitive? Why do they usually says the ‘wrong’ words to girls and gradually make them feel bad? You may tell yourself that it’s not on purpose to hurt eve’s feelings but on the reality of ‘her’ word, it is a bad foul.

(1)   I wish he knows I’m trying everything to please him. Sometimes girls do the big stuffs or even the small stuffs just to make her man happy or just to please him at any way. The thing is, sometimes guys forget to tell her the right words. Remember girls like to hear you say that you appreciate what they did to you. They want to feel that the things she did for you was so important and therefore, making her best effort out of it. The only job you needed to do was to thank her wholeheartedly and for the bonus a hug or kiss will do.

(2) I wish he tells me I look beautiful today. Sounds asking for mercy or for pity but actually it’s just like telling her beautiful because she made an effort to dress tonight just to impress you or she tries to look good today because it’s a special day for the two of. All in all it’s just a matter of appreciating her. But you should tell her she’s beautiful or gorgeous even if there’s nothing special on that day. Just being with your girl everytime should be beautiful. Tell her that something positive happened on her appearance; trust me she worked harder to look good just to make you recognize about it.

(3)  I wish he’ll introduce me to his friends. Every girl would be so honored if her man did the ‘special’ thing of treating her girl, just like introducing her to your friends. She’ll think that you’re proud of her and nothing means quite as much as knowing that you’ll break your tough guy facade in front of your buddies. At least, she’ll know that you’re not ashamed of her.

(4)I wish he’ll remember me. Text her for no particular reason but not on the way you’ll send a hundreds of messages. Just a meaningless ‘Hi’ or ‘What’s up?’ or ‘How’s your day going?’ or ‘I miss you’ or ‘I love you’. A text message like this would make her think that you remember him for no reason; it’s just that you think about her, your thoughts are about her and you miss her.

(5) I wish he knows I’m irritated. If she’s irritated on what you’re doing then just simply stop it.

(6)I wish he knew I’m a bit jealous. Don’t ever make an issue about this thing. I know you know about it and it’s a typical personality for the entire woman that we’re a jealous type, consciously or not. But trust me, you’ll know about it when she’s out if the line by that time so don’t play with it.

(7) Dance with me. Dance with me on a birthday, on a wedding, on an empty road, on my house with a fantastic music. She doesn’t care if you’re a terrible dancer. Plus, it is a sweet thing to do.

(8)Take me out. Some girls do love adventure! So why ask her for some? Something spontaneous or surprising! Take her out even if it’s not a special day, just ask her, it’ll be so extra effort for her.

(9)I wish he’ll support me. Girls are big dreamer and a doer, so when she tells it to you about the out of this world dreams, understand her. If she wants to be fit, support her, if she wants to play piano and be good at it, support her, if she wants to continue playing chess, support her. Anything that’ll make her feel good inside. But remember there are limits about it and I bet you know about it.

(10) I wish sometimes he’ll treat me in an old-fashioned way. Girls appreciate very effort you’re going to make. I know this is a modern day for all of us, and we admit that sometimes we miss the old-days of treating us like queens or princess.

(11)  Love me. Love me for who I am regardless of my weirdness, my eccentricities, my love for bugs, my love for the Beatles, and my love for Owen Wilson or whatever. I wish he’ll just love me for the whole me.

Read More

THINGS YOU SHOULD NEVER SAY TO MEN

When guys do changes his expression that goes from happy eyes to glassy eyes then you definitely say something out of the border. Usually, guys are pretty accommodating with anything you say to them. They’re easy going and can put up with a bit of insults and let downs. But every now and then, there are a few things that may slip out of your mouth and hurt him way harder than you think. It is just simply means that men do have an ego and they have this kind of attitude that they made them to act like a man.
(1)  Man up- This is something you really shouldn't tell. You’re not his mother or sister to tell this to your man to grow up and act like a man. He is a man, so if something’s wrong about him, learn to communicate without insulting him.
 (2)  We need to talk- This is absolutely uncomfortable to him. This phrase is the most likely to shift him into defensive mode. Try a more loving approach and you will surely get better results.
(3)  I’m not your mother- Literally correct, but emotionally disturbing for a man. Keep your mom or his mom out of it. It is not really a good phrase for you to say to him.
(4)  Is she prettier than me?/Do I look fat?- Girls. Girls. Girls. Sometimes it is irritating to ask it every time. He’s not a fashion expert or a health instructor. Men don’t like asking questions about that, they find it so ‘girly’ and fancy. If the question you’re asking him has only one acceptable answer – and if a too-long pause in responding will only feed your insecurities – just trust that his answer would have been the right one and don’t bother to ask it.
(5)  Are you really that stupid?- Totally a NO. This is a word that will definitely hurt anybody’s feeling, not only your man. Treat him with respect and don’t act like you’re the main man and he’s the robin in the film. Man does have a pride, so don’t step on it and don’t belittle your guy.
(6)  You’re just like my ex- WORSE. Don’t ever compare him to your past. It is an awkward comparison, besides it’s like stepping again his pride. It’s like telling him that you’re not good for me and I wish my someone come and rescue me from you. It’s a no.
(7)  Never mind- Don’t dismiss the offers he had for you. Men like helping their girls even in the smallest thing on earth. They want to feel that they’re significant for their partner, or they want to be the hero in the scene. It’s their act of language, an act of service, an act of love. Don’t deny the chance for him to serve you.
(8)  Your friend is so charming!- Don’t tell it to him, especially when you haven’t complimented your guy about the same trait.
(9)  I've dated better guys- Just don’t hurt his pride okay? I mean it’s really an ‘ouchy’ phrase for you to tell it.
(10)  You’re insecure- Sometimes they may feel so insecure about things. But don’t say it aloud it makes him feel so weak and helpless.

Read More

The Irony of Love

Love is crazy and so are people. We really don’t know what’s going on and why it has to happen. It is always unexplainable and unreasonable. The world is full of witches, werewolves, vampires, ghost and even monsters with one eye. You see it’s so magical and so is love. I imagine love as a crazy labyrinth that no one can escape and we were all going to be crazy. We are trapped in it.

I bet you know the song “Ironic” by Alanis right? I bet you know. “Well life has a funny way of sneaking up on you, when you think everything’s okay and everything’s going right and life has a funny way of helping you out when you think everything’s gone wrong and everything blows up in your face.”... “A traffic jam when you’re already late, a no-smoking sign on your cigarette break, it’s like ten thousand spoon when you all need is a knife, it’s meeting the man of my dreams and then meeting his beautiful wife and isn’t it ironic? Don’t you think?”

Same what is life brings to us then love it is.

The ironies of love.

- You love someone but this someone doesn’t like you either.

-Someone loves you but you never give a chance to that someone and yourself to love that someone back

-You had the right love at the wrong time (Somewhere Down the Road plays ♫♫)

-You’re on time but with the wrong love

-You left, he stayed.

-You came back for him, he leaves

-I love you, she loves you.

-You love her, I love you, and someone loves me too

- Say what, love? Why do you keep on messing with a good people with perfectly good hearts?

These are just some of the ‘funny’ stories in love. Some were afraid of fighting, some decided to let go, for some reasons you just notice that the one you love doesn’t love you back. Most relationships tend to fail not because of the absence of love, but because love is always present. It’s just that one was being loved too much, and the other was being loved too little. And that is true, in a relationship someone is stronger and the other is weaker, but that doesn’t mean the latter didn’t show his/her love. Most often, we fall in love with the person we think we love, but to only discover that for them we are just for past times. While the one who truly loves us remains either your friend or a stranger. When you think of your past love; you may view it as a failure; but when you find a new love, you view the past as a teacher. In the game of love, it doesn’t really matter who won or who lost. What’s important is that you know when to hold on and when to let go.  Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress. But why is it that the greatest irony of love is letting go when you want to hold on, and holding on when you need to let go? You can never find the right person if you can never let it go of the wrong. Love is a painful gamble, you didn’t know what will happen next and that’s the thing, you became stronger, you become whole. And in the most unexpected way of life can bring, there in that middle of billion people walking, talking, laughing around—there is just one person you love. Isn’t it ironic?

Read More