MOTIVATE YOURSELF!

Sh*t happens. All the time.

You make mistakes. You screw up. Things don’t go the way you hoped..

There are times when we feel so down, depressed, sad, insecure and suddenly we just feel that the there is something wrong with you or the people around you. Sometimes, we don’t have the verge to tell it to anyone maybe we’re shy, clueless of what will they think, keeping your pride or just sometimes you feel at that moment that you don’t have a friend and you’re alone. Sometimes we all think that we’re insignificant, that we can’t do these tasks ahead of us and we have no direction in life.

It’s not a disease people. We all came to the point of acting like Edward Scissorhands being so depressed and cover yourself with sheets. We don’t have that thing. We can still manage to live a life beyond imagination. We can achieve dreams and set for our goals and aspire for it. We can still motivate ourselves and learn through it. People’s minds are so powerful.

Whilst I’m certainly no expert at this whole life game, there are a few methods I’ve found that work quite well for me when I’m feeling stuck in a rut.

(1)  Write down the problems that makes you feel down

It is a way of realizing and at the same time contributing to your state of mind as a way of dealing with all these problems whether it’s a small thing up to the biggest issue of your life. It will make you somehow make a plan of how to deal with it and then there comes of how motivating yourself through it. It’s the first step of realizing what should you deal with these problems in your life.

(2)  Let go of the ideal plan.

We have to accept it, not all of the things we used to plan will turn out that way. It was a way of planning in order for your mind to organize things in that day, it is what you made up. But reality is unpredictable; no one can plan ahead of things. It is always surprising. Don’t expect that what you plan will eventually happen. You have to accept the things that change that unfortunately didn’t go as what you had planned.

 “To help yourself, you must be yourself. Be the best that you can be. When you make a mistake, learn from it, pick yourself up and move on.” Dave Pelzer

(3)   Take baby steps

It’s like doing tasks from the smallest to the biggest. If you think that problems occur as a whole bunch of shits then you would figure that you can’t make it and it is just so hard to try to do it. So the cure here is take baby steps. Start from the bite-size tasks and work out a timetable for getting it done.  Don't be too ambitious otherwise you'll fall behind and end up back at square one, but plan properly and give yourself a reasonable window of time to get each piece in place. No huge success starts from what it is, it always starts from the very beginning.

(4)Set some goals

Without goals, you probably will not know if you are really accomplishing anything. Set some small goals and then try your best to achieve it and work hard. It will be good practice for you if you have not done that before.

(5) Find out what motivates you – it is not the same for everyone.

It seems like the answer of the question but it is true. Find what’s inspiring you. We all have this kind of different things that will boost our energy and therefore making us inspired again or motivated to do the tasks. For example, some people find comfort through money, music, family, relationship, TV shows, movies, or idolize actors. Whatever it is, it is one of the ways of inspiring yourself that will lead you to be better and find comfort again and so will guarantee that you’ll work will done finish.

(6)  Find Your Itch 

What is keeping you from working. Don’t let the itch continue without isolating it and removing the problem. Are you unmotivated because you’re tired, afraid, bored, restless or angry? Maybe it is because you aren’t sure you have time or delegated tasks haven’t been finished yet.

(7)  Deconstruct Your Fears 

If you need to achieve those tasks, destroy the entire negative aura especially the fear. I’m sure you don’t have a phobia about getting stuff done. But at the same time, hidden fears or anxieties can keep you from getting real work completed. Isolate this fear and you’ll make yourself confident again to handle the cases around you.

(8)  Start with just five

Try the five minute rule.  Tell yourself this simple phrase: "I'm just going to work on this for five minutes. Five minutes and then, if I want to, I can do something else for a while." The five-minute rule works magic. You know why? Because more often than not that little push will be enough to get you going and keep going until you've finished the task. It’s like having yourself work and then take a break and it will not hassle you or panic you. You’ll definitely make things work out by then.

(9)  Think outwards.

It is easy to think the negatives than to try to imagine the positive. It is easy to pity oneself but hard to motivate. But actually you just need to think outwards. Look at the ways that can help you maybe it’s our friends, partners, family members and by just accident even the strangers. You’ll find that everyone you meet has problems. You’re not alone.

(10) Move your body.

Exercise can be great if used in a constructive way. It’s a good way to get back to our primal roots, and hit the reset button on those negative thoughts. My head usually feels a lot clearer after a run, climb, grapple or workout. It’s like meditating yourself throughout it. A little exercise can somehow make you feel good and refresh and therefore, will let your mind to think better and not pushing yourself too hard..

(11)Take a rest.

Relax. Take a deep breath, and slow down. It’s not like all problems are manage by you. All people have that. But some learned to manage it well. Take a meditation session, a hot bath or a massage. A long nap perhaps. We all get tired and we need a rest. Maybe after that you’ll find yourself again heading forward.

(12) Shout it from the rooftops

Don’t keep it too much from yourself or inside your chest. Shout it out. It will make you feel good somehow. Tell the world and your pride and self respect won't let you back down.

(13) Embrace gratitude.

Think of this. You think all of the problems you have but you forget to acknowledge the things you have, the blessings you have.  Remind yourself that you are grateful for the things you have and some other people are still finding it. Even mistakes and challenges. They’re opportunities to see what we’re made of. They give us a chance to grow. Remember that being happy doesn’t mean you have no problems at all. It means you’ve become better at dealing with them.

YOU CAN MAKE IT. I BELIEVE IN YOU. HAVE A GREAT DAY