Saturday, February 28, 2015

That thing called “Moving on” ( Top cliché lines you’ll always hear when suffering from heartbreak)



Sometimes… though, hearing it a thousand times… it goes too well.
This is a true story. It is definitely is.

Dear Heartache,


      Be strong- There’s no other way but to be strong. If you insist to be weak all the time then darling you're the one who’s hurting yourself. It is too much. The only person you’re believing for and hoping for is you. Yes yourself. You have to believe that you can do this, even if thousands of memories came flashing back one by one.

   Cry- Contrary to the first one, well this only means that don’t act too strong, like acting nothing happened, like everything’s perfect and nothing actually hurt deep inside. Yes you have to be strong in a way that you believe that you can pass this heartbreaking situation that you can actually move on and feel happy again. Ignoring is so different from moving on. When you actually ignore, it more comes to you that nothing is finished, that you actually leave your heart unasked. Cry, if you feel hurt and if it makes you better… then cry. There’s no crime it in. It actually makes your heart feel better than keeping all the hurt inside.

   Don’t blame him/her, don’t blame yourself- Okay, maybe he’s/she’s the one who made the mistake, or maybe you. The point is, it is already done. You guys already made a choice. You’ve hurt one another, and that’s not a good thing but in reality it happens. Say sorry for fooling around and if he/she wants a second chance then you’re all good, maybe you don’t need to read this. But if it doesn’t go too well, then don’t blame anyone for what happened. Sometimes, the person you love and believe for was not the person you love anymore or maybe sometimes believing that he’s/she’s the one wasn’t the answer for forever. It happens. One day you love the person you are with and then the next day you woke up not feeling the same love you share with him/her... it doesn’t feel the same way again.

      Be with your friends- The crazy people don’t leave you just like that. It maybe heartbreaking to be with them while talking about your problems and thinking that something change and thinking that you are sad and single. Well, the break up just happened, so tell them, voice out if you feel comfortable. Hang out with them, cause sometimes, they bring the fresh jokes ever and wishing that you can smile just for a while.

      Talk to a new friend- Talking to a friend about your story is a good thing. But sometimes you need someone new, it helps because your new friend doesn’t have to be bias in terms of advising about your problems and believe it or not, sometimes you mostly said the loudest words you kept from your friends. Lastly, you get new encouraging words from your new friend. (Watch “That thing called tadhana”)

           Don’t hide in the dark side- Go somewhere! Somewhere, where you can voice out your feelings alone, where you can think all the things that happened between you and your guy/girl. Refresh your mind and help yourself to keep the track back. Feel the moment of finally being alone, okay feel the hurt, but after suffering from your deep thoughts, learn to be appreciative. Sometimes you have to come into this kind of scene because it is part of your life.

        Think about the good side- Maybe there’s something good that will come. So cliché, but yeah, you know what they say… someone leaves, someone comes. Think about the bright side darling, it maybe hurtful at first, but once you get the idea of finally spending time with your lost long friends, your family, your siblings or maybe spending a lot by yourself, you sometimes feel more appreciative about the person that is around you. There are a lot of people that loves you even if that one person leaves you. There is someone coming ready to save you and this time it is the right one.

             Try- Don’t be afraid of meeting someone new. It comes with readiness. Don’t try if you’re not ready… yet. Try and believe again in the magic of love. How can you know he’s the right one if you didn’t even try because you’re too scared? I can’t promise you that when the right one comes, you’ll never be hurt again but that’s full of shit. You have to remember that when you started to love, you have to be ready for pain. But … if he’s/she’s really the one that God wants you to be with, then no matter what happened… he’s/she’s always be your forever.

             Accept- Accept the changes that will happened to you. The daily habit of being with him/her was no longer on your planner. It’s time to accept the big changes in your life and change it with the small ones up to the big ones. Once you’ve accept the truth… slowly you mend the broken heart.


             Pray- Eat. Pray. Love. Simple. Eat for you to be full. Pray for you to be live. Love for you to be loved. 



Friday, February 13, 2015

A letter from the girl about celebrating V-day in two special ways


                You did two things for me.

The guy I dated last Valentine’s Day was from the same school I attended. He was the guy that every cheerleader’s cheering for, he was the guy that every guy’s friend would love to hang out to, because he’s simple and yet funny. He was the guy who kept his intelligence by himself and I know that because once, we’ve competed in a home economics test.  He may be sometimes getting a lot too serious about business matters but one day along the hallway I saw him smile. That was the day I thought that this guy might be my future. I know I get too fast and that’s not right, but one thing I know that the cupid thing was right. I am finally feeling the fast beating of my heart.

                Summer came along and I can’t remember how happy I am, because on summer camping, there he was, the guy who wears a simple t-shirt but look so handsome and the smile that can lift up even the heavy boxes. I am truly into him. The rest of the summer stories were a history. We didn’t talk, we didn’t hang out, but at least we know each other’s by name. And at that one shot of the night, he asked my number.

                If you watch too many movies, I bet you know what happened next. Valentine’s Day: I wear red dress, do my simple make-up trick and just lay back my long hair. Once upon time we thought we were lovers, we thought that everything was magical and alright. That was the first V-day I had with him and that is the good one.

                The second and maybe should I called the last V-day I celebrated it with him was the day I finally had to let go of him. It was hard and it was awful, I thought it was the end. I thought that celebrating that event is very stupid.


Until once upon a time again… while walking alone and celebrating V-day, crying. Someone offered me a bouquet of roses and there was the guy in the camp, the other guy I barely know but knows a lot of me. The other guy who always watched me, the other guy who was a friend with the g guy who left me, the other guy who got my number. He was that… guy and from that special day I didn’t walk alone.

Thursday, February 5, 2015

For Guys: Have her with your mouth (Better ways to communicate with your girl)



Dear Stagger guys,
                                I use the word “stagger” as an adjective and not a verb, for all the guys who mostly happened to be shaky and unsteady when it comes talking to your “special girl”, we’ve all seen this kind of scenario in movies, right? If you guys remember the movie I love you Beth Cooper, then mostly you know what I mean. I bet you also know the Sorcerer’s apprentice right? The guy staggers his words whenever he sees or started talking with the apple of his eye. Believe me, it only happens to be that unfortunate because these guys mostly fell out of love, fell out of sight and mostly, fell out of words.
                                Then here comes the guy who has all the confidence in the world, the football player guy, the varsity player and the hunky-dunky in campus. They all communicate well when they talk to their team mates, coach, teachers, or some other girls in campus but not to the one who they truly admire. And that’s where the issue comes.
                                Some other guys thought that talking too logical or too intelligent will make them superior in conversation leading to the false belief that this kind of talking will make their girl fall for their words, but some girl, they don’t buy it. They don’t actually swallow your word-tionary.
So, to make her finally decide that you’re someone’s worth talking to, and maybe someone’s worth wasting the night with, then here are some tips for you guys!
(             (1)    Don’t be too logical.
                                -Yes, it is good to hear some witty words to you guys, but not to the point that you overcome your girl’s emotion and believes. Believe me, it will hurt them. Thinking that this guy is being too logical for their first date is a no no. So try to listen and sympathize and move on after.
        (2) Don’t tell stupid things
                                -You know the stupid things, you know that. Now, when it comes to the girl don’t tell words that will make them think that this guy is too cocky or too selfish.
        (3) Have an answer
                                -This is mainly the thing, when she asks you “What do you want to eat?” most guys will answer “I don’t know, what do you want to eat?” The thing is girls and also guys don’t know what exactly we want or feel. So when they asked you give an answer, at least you made a comment, an idea for her to based, if she doesn’t likes your idea, then at least you could know, and if she does, then you win.
        (4) Don’t interview
                                -This is about getting to know the answer, not the case that the girl is applying for you as an assistant. Sure, you want to know her likes or what kind of things she get interested, but always remember that you like this girl and you want to know more about her, not in the matter that you have to interview her. Talk and have a real conversation.
        (5) Sorry not sorry
                                -Just stop saying the sorry. Putting the word sorry before and after the sentence makes you lame in front of her, plus it made some girls think that you truly made something wrong.
PLUS: A manly hand shake will always do the first introduction of you. Depending on how you acted on your firm grip hand shake with another man then somehow it defines how you firstly communicate with them. For your girls, have the proper hand shake if you know what I mean.