It is easy to be miserable but so hard to be happy— the real happiness everyone desires. It is easy to nag on your job, on your life, on your partner, on your family, on your business—it easy to find a root for you to be alone, depressed, sad and therefore far from your happiness. At some point, Angel Chernoff wrote the 10 Habits That Steal Your Happiness and I am here to sort of discuss these habits that usually ruin you, consciously or not.
(1) Focusing on everyone’s story except your own.-What other people business are not yours to mind on. Remember, you have your own life and of course they have. Don’t depend on other stories of success, of victory. You have to bring your own shot in life. You have everything you need to become what you are capable of becoming. It is you that controls your life so keep that in mind.
(2) Waiting for the perfect moment.- Not true. If I had to answer I would say definitely no. There is no such thing as perfect, and therefore there is no perfect moment. You don’t have to wait for the perfect stars to align, or for your horoscope to tell you that today is perfect, you don’t have to believe that in this day when it’s perfect it is all good. The real thing is that it’s your willingness to do that decision and feeling right about it. You will come to succeed not by finding a perfect moment, but by learning to see and use life’s imperfections perfectly.
(3) Working for nothing more than a paycheck.- Work without interest is imprisonment. What I just wanted to say is that work and enjoy then you got pay. It’s not all about the money darling, you live by it day by day so why not enjoy working and got pay at the same time? Think about it. This is your life; your work will fill a large percentage of it. It’s not all about the money; it’s about you. Ignore the propaganda, especially from people who say, “Don’t let your work define you.” Reverse this message and mediate on it: “I will do work that defines me.”
(4) Harboring feelings of hate.- Hate cannot be cured with another hate. As Martin Luther King Jr. so profoundly said, “Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” It will only eat us and will make us blind in order to see the light of happiness. Forget of hating and just love. You only live once. Don’t make fuss about it.
(5) Holding tight to worries and fears.- It is usual for us to worry to fear something about anything or about someone. It is inevitable. But what is wrong is if we keep holding on to it and never letting go then from there we forget the simplest thing on how to be happy. When you start peeling them off, all the worries, fear and strange feelings will all be gone and a happy productive person will show.
(6) Dwelling on difficulties.- A bad day is just a bad day. Choose not to make it anything more. Take note of the idea that every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day. Don’t let this difficulty let you down and suddenly change your day into nothing but a frown. Every day brings new lessons and new possibilities. There is always a way to take the next step forward on the path you've chosen.
(7) Constantly seeking fleeting contentment.- There are two variations of contentment in life – fleeting and enduring. The fleeting type is derived from instants of material comfort, while the enduring type is attained through the gradual growth of your mind. It is known that the latter is superior to the other.
(8) Trying to make a big difference all at once.-Don’t try hard of making a big difference by just a snap. If you want to make a difference in the world, start with the world around you. However, instantly making a difference in a few lives is entirely possible and usually fairly easy. You just have to focus on one person at a time and start with the one closest to you. There are some points that you didn’t know that you’re making a big difference on other’s life. Just stay positive and touch other lives not because it’s your job but because you wanted to make a difference however, not all at once.
(9) Holding on to someone who hurts you.- Let go and move on. Sometimes you just have to let someone go and walk away. But don’t let the idea turn you down. When someone closes the door for you, take heart the window will open.
(10) Over-amplifying the importance of physical attractiveness.-Infatuating yourself with someone simply for what they look like on the outside is like choosing your favorite food based on color instead of taste (Papertowns). It makes no sense. There are some things that cannot buy just because of the outside looks, you have to look deeper, for a more meaningful idea.
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