WHY DO WE STAY ON INTOXICATING RELATIONSHIPS? LEAVE OR STAY?

People create the illusion of love. Why do we need to love? Why someone has to love? Is it really needed? For some quite reasons, YES, it is necessary. Just imagine why. You wouldn’t work so hard on that stupid office not if your love one’s depends on you. You wouldn’t study so hard on those stupid textbooks not if your mom whom you love wants you to learn and grow. You wouldn’t eat those damn green veggies not if you love yourself and your body.

Same things as here. Why do people stay on relationship that is full of sick lame gestures and is intoxicating? It is like you’ve eaten a lot and you’re already full but still you need to eat the remaining dish. Too much and you’re already going to vomit.

Too much is bad. Too much will make you feel like drowning.

But why do people have this power to swallow everything and just say “its okay” even though it’s not anymore?

We give our partner’s a chance- The reason why you keep on staying even though your heart doesn’t feel so happy is that you don’t lose the chance to hope that someday he’ll/she’ll change, for the better, for the both of you to be happy. You let yourself thinking that “I love him/her so I’ll wait” you wait and you wait. You stay because you know he’s/she’s better than that, he still can make you happy. She still can understand you.  At some point it isn’t bad, it can be three things (1) You love him/her so much that you are willing to wait (2) You’re just afraid to admit to yourself that there’s no turning back, that you made a mistake of choosing, of deciding (3) Your ego.

You get suddenly deaf by hearing the word ‘Alone’- Nobody wants to be alone. No one. If you want to be ALONE for the rest of your life then you better get your packs on and live on MARS. We all need someone, somebody to lean on, to give on, and to receive on. “No man is an island”. So just by thinking that you leave your partner, you became suddenly panic about the world “ALONE”, you can’t be alone right? You are afraid that after breaking up with your partner, you ended being alone. You suck on dates; you don’t know the right thing to do. You suddenly feel new about the dating cycle. But will you still stay even if you keep crying at night?

You’re afraid to leave “The one”- This is wrong, love isn’t about being assured, being assured that you should always have someone, assured that you will get home bringing something and nothing. But love is a game you see? You have to make a bet. How you’ll know if he’s the one or she’s the one if you’re not trying to make a chance of a lifetime to bet?

You thought about not moving at all- We are human and so we are not safe of anything, sooner or later we’ll all get hurt—by someone— strangers or even the love of your life. The thing is why you should keep on staying on a relationship that’s teaching you to move on SLOWLY and PAINFULLY? It is just the dead end, you have to MOVE ON.

There are two things either you stay or leave.

Stay- Okay, give them a chance, see what will happen, see if he’s/she’s keeping up. See if you can no longer take the pain, the hurt, see if you can still love the same person everyday but still keeps on hurting you, without him knowing it.

Leave- Take a gamble, decide whether to love yourself above all and choose to be happy. To choose to meet new friends and decide to achieve your pasts dreams, to live by yourself, to explore and learn more things about you, to take a rest and take everything slowly and finally to gamble again for falling in love.