The Perks of Being a Nature Lover

Dear Wanderlust,

If you choose to lay on bed all day long and sniff your pillows, turn on the tv and do nothing but touch the ceiling... honey please do get up. I repeat get up.
And once you do, please smile... then put all your travel clothes and essentials. Start surfing the internet and plan where to go. It doesnt matter how far or how close you are. Try to get up & move your muscles. There's a lot of beautiful things outside, the world will give you more only if you ask it.
Have a self fulfillment and a wild heart foe your adventure.
DO TAKE RISKS. MAKE THINGS HAPPEN.

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A little Tribute to Guys out there: For men tough on the outside, but soft-souled on the inside:

I call all the boys out, yes all. This is your page and I am honoring you studs.

Dear Wonder ball,

                I assume right now you can say that you are alright and have nothing to worry right? I assume you can play video games and practice basketball and laugh it off with nothing to worry and hide, right? I assume that’s YOU on the outside. First, there’s nothing wrong about it. You guys intend to be strong, to be hard and to be tough… on the outside, and I guess that’s your nature. You don’t want someone to see you weaker than anybody else. But mind you, we are all human.

                I know deep down there is someone who can’t hide the truth. When anybody thinks that you are so tough and hard, I know you actually care for people you most loved, you just find it hard to express your feelings. And even if someone thought you actually judge and couldn’t care about anything, I assume you still care for what people might think about you. And even if you ignore or deny the compliments, I know deep down you really appreciates it.

            And even if you intend to feel okay outside after the toxic break-up, chances are, you really thought about it the whole time. You thought that this girl might be the one, and it troubles you deep down. And I tell you, it’s okay to cry. Someone may tell you that you don’t actually care about your relationship, but deep down stud, I know you really care for this girl so much that you are willing to give it all. And after some girl breaks your heart, you acted like okay-doky on the outside, and just trying to ignore the feeling, I know deep inside you cried your heart out because of pain, and I just want to tell you dude, that someone is out there waiting for you, waiting for that kind of love to be shared. So don’t use someone just to patch the hole of pain, wait for it and it will heal and when the right time comes, she is there exactly smiling at you. Don’t give up the being of a man.

                We girls might misunderstand you sometimes, and it’s because of your little nature. Like what John Gray’s book Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus.

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16 compelling lines that will leave you an aftermath.

1.  No matter how many mistakes you make or how slow you progress, you are still way ahead of everyone who isn’t trying.

2.  Sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.

3. As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.

4. Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, Albert Einstein, etc…

5. No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life.  Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs.


6. Be happy.  Be yourself.  If others don’t like it, then let them be.  Happiness is a choice.  Life isn’t about pleasing everybody.

7.  If you don’t like something, change it.  If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.

8. There are things that we don’t want to happen but have to accept, things we don’t want to know but have to learn, and people we can’t live without but have to let go.


9.   You don’t drown by falling in the water.  You drown by staying there.

10. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie.  Don’t save it for a special occasion; today is special.


11. Never do something permanently foolish just because you are temporarily upset.


12. Too many people buy things they don’t need with money they don’t have to impress people they don’t know.  


13.  When you have to start compromising yourself and your morals for the people around you, it’s probably time to change the people around you.

14.   Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right.

15.  Happiness is not determined by what’s happening around you, but rather what’s happening inside you.  Most people depend on others to gain happiness, but the truth is, it always comes from within.

16.  Love and appreciate your parents.  We are often so busy growing up, we forget they are also growing old.

Comment your favorite saying or maybe you can share your most overpowering line, tell me about it!

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HARD. SWEET. TASTE. (My Own Version Of Liz Gilbert’s EAT. PRAY. LOVE.)

These past few weeks I’ve been reading a book from Liz Gilbert’s personal experiences and concurrence about the existence of her life. This book personally touches my heart and even my soul, for some reasons, while reading some part of her line; I suddenly stop reading and take a moment of myself by realizing that I also want to feel the same way she did feel. For now, this has been one of my favorite books and I also want to share to you the greatness of this book.

I decided to make my own version of this book and also trying to change the title that is related to my OWN experiences.

                “Even in my underpants, I feel different”

                                                                                                -Elizabeth Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love)

HARD

I named the first part of my journey as hard, denoting that for me before the sweet life, you have to taste the hard part of your meal. It may be bitter, sour, too sweet or spicy. It depends on how you denote your “Hard meal”. But for me, I’ve been with those tastes. I experienced the bitter part of my hard meal. I’ve been broken too many times, I’ve been disappointed and surely been depressed for over thinking things that no matter how hard you think, it still doesn’t solve any of the problems. Sometimes I can’t control my thoughts, I overwhelmed with the ideas and thoughts coming out of my mind. I also experienced that sour taste of life, sometimes life gave me lemons but I made Taro tea instead of lemonade. Sometimes I can’t cope up. Life isn’t that unfair, yes he gave me a sweet life, but after tasting it I am not enjoying anymore, it is too sweet for my tooth, I might have a tooth ache. But don’t you worry sometimes it is too spicy that it heats up my nerves. It may be some adventures, some thrilling moment I’ve get to experienced or sometimes it is just a bubble, nothing out of it. I’ve been into a lot and I thought so you are. We all ate our “hard meal” but that just doesn’t stop, we have to remember that there’s still a dessert, a sweet dessert…  not too sweet, not too dull, just perfect the way it is.

SWEET

This is the benefit of the human welfare; we all have the chance to taste our desserts, it is given to us, you just have to SEE it before TASTING it. It is your choice between living in the grey line or stepping out of it. I am happy to taste a sweet dessert after a long day of hard work, it is all worth it. The important thing is to balance it, don’t taste too much; it might cause you a diabetes. What I’ve mostly learned in life is to patiently wait for the perfect dessert to be offer to you. Not all desserts are meant for you to taste, some are just life-offering piece, and life gives you a bit of taste and an aftertaste. But sooner, life will give you the dessert you’ve always wanted.

TASTE

For me, this is Liz’ “Pray” part, you’ve been full, you’ve been into the hard meal, then the dessert and of course, you’ve tasted them all. The catch here is, how do you respond to that taste? How will you manage to decide after tasting? Will you eat again? Or will you just finish the meal and get up? After the taste, sure you want to have a drink? Yes? And that’s essential. Do not just eat, but taste and then drink. Same as in life, do not just pass the problem, learn from it and then move forward and try again.

                “To find the balance you want, this is what you must become. You must keep your feet grounded so firmly on the earth that it’s like you have four legs, instead of two. That way, you can stay in the world. But you must stop looking at the world through your head. You must look through your HEART, instead. That way you will know GOD”

                                                                                -Ketut Liyer

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That thing called “Moving on” ( Top cliché lines you’ll always hear when suffering from heartbreak)

Sometimes… though, hearing it a thousand times… it goes too well.

This is a true story. It is definitely is.

Dear Heartache,


      Be strong- There’s no other way but to be strong. If you insist to be weak all the time then darling you're the one who’s hurting yourself. It is too much. The only person you’re believing for and hoping for is you. Yes yourself. You have to believe that you can do this, even if thousands of memories came flashing back one by one.

   Cry- Contrary to the first one, well this only means that don’t act too strong, like acting nothing happened, like everything’s perfect and nothing actually hurt deep inside. Yes you have to be strong in a way that you believe that you can pass this heartbreaking situation that you can actually move on and feel happy again. Ignoring is so different from moving on. When you actually ignore, it more comes to you that nothing is finished, that you actually leave your heart unasked. Cry, if you feel hurt and if it makes you better… then cry. There’s no crime it in. It actually makes your heart feel better than keeping all the hurt inside.

   Don’t blame him/her, don’t blame yourself- Okay, maybe he’s/she’s the one who made the mistake, or maybe you. The point is, it is already done. You guys already made a choice. You’ve hurt one another, and that’s not a good thing but in reality it happens. Say sorry for fooling around and if he/she wants a second chance then you’re all good, maybe you don’t need to read this. But if it doesn’t go too well, then don’t blame anyone for what happened. Sometimes, the person you love and believe for was not the person you love anymore or maybe sometimes believing that he’s/she’s the one wasn’t the answer for forever. It happens. One day you love the person you are with and then the next day you woke up not feeling the same love you share with him/her... it doesn’t feel the same way again.

      Be with your friends- The crazy people don’t leave you just like that. It maybe heartbreaking to be with them while talking about your problems and thinking that something change and thinking that you are sad and single. Well, the break up just happened, so tell them, voice out if you feel comfortable. Hang out with them, cause sometimes, they bring the fresh jokes ever and wishing that you can smile just for a while.

      Talk to a new friend- Talking to a friend about your story is a good thing. But sometimes you need someone new, it helps because your new friend doesn’t have to be bias in terms of advising about your problems and believe it or not, sometimes you mostly said the loudest words you kept from your friends. Lastly, you get new encouraging words from your new friend. (Watch “That thing called tadhana”)

           Don’t hide in the dark side- Go somewhere! Somewhere, where you can voice out your feelings alone, where you can think all the things that happened between you and your guy/girl. Refresh your mind and help yourself to keep the track back. Feel the moment of finally being alone, okay feel the hurt, but after suffering from your deep thoughts, learn to be appreciative. Sometimes you have to come into this kind of scene because it is part of your life.

        Think about the good side- Maybe there’s something good that will come. So cliché, but yeah, you know what they say… someone leaves, someone comes. Think about the bright side darling, it maybe hurtful at first, but once you get the idea of finally spending time with your lost long friends, your family, your siblings or maybe spending a lot by yourself, you sometimes feel more appreciative about the person that is around you. There are a lot of people that loves you even if that one person leaves you. There is someone coming ready to save you and this time it is the right one.

             Try- Don’t be afraid of meeting someone new. It comes with readiness. Don’t try if you’re not ready… yet. Try and believe again in the magic of love. How can you know he’s the right one if you didn’t even try because you’re too scared? I can’t promise you that when the right one comes, you’ll never be hurt again but that’s full of shit. You have to remember that when you started to love, you have to be ready for pain. But … if he’s/she’s really the one that God wants you to be with, then no matter what happened… he’s/she’s always be your forever.

             Accept- Accept the changes that will happened to you. The daily habit of being with him/her was no longer on your planner. It’s time to accept the big changes in your life and change it with the small ones up to the big ones. Once you’ve accept the truth… slowly you mend the broken heart.

             Pray- Eat. Pray. Love. Simple. Eat for you to be full. Pray for you to be live. Love for you to be loved. 

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A letter from the girl about celebrating V-day in two special ways

                You did two things for me.

The guy I dated last Valentine’s Day was from the same school I attended. He was the guy that every cheerleader’s cheering for, he was the guy that every guy’s friend would love to hang out to, because he’s simple and yet funny. He was the guy who kept his intelligence by himself and I know that because once, we’ve competed in a home economics test.  He may be sometimes getting a lot too serious about business matters but one day along the hallway I saw him smile. That was the day I thought that this guy might be my future. I know I get too fast and that’s not right, but one thing I know that the cupid thing was right. I am finally feeling the fast beating of my heart.

                Summer came along and I can’t remember how happy I am, because on summer camping, there he was, the guy who wears a simple t-shirt but look so handsome and the smile that can lift up even the heavy boxes. I am truly into him. The rest of the summer stories were a history. We didn’t talk, we didn’t hang out, but at least we know each other’s by name. And at that one shot of the night, he asked my number.

                If you watch too many movies, I bet you know what happened next. Valentine’s Day: I wear red dress, do my simple make-up trick and just lay back my long hair. Once upon time we thought we were lovers, we thought that everything was magical and alright. That was the first V-day I had with him and that is the good one.

                The second and maybe should I called the last V-day I celebrated it with him was the day I finally had to let go of him. It was hard and it was awful, I thought it was the end. I thought that celebrating that event is very stupid.

Until once upon a time again… while walking alone and celebrating V-day, crying. Someone offered me a bouquet of roses and there was the guy in the camp, the other guy I barely know but knows a lot of me. The other guy who always watched me, the other guy who was a friend with the g guy who left me, the other guy who got my number. He was that… guy and from that special day I didn’t walk alone.

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For Guys: Have her with your mouth (Better ways to communicate with your girl)

Dear Stagger guys,

                                I use the word “stagger” as an adjective and not a verb, for all the guys who mostly happened to be shaky and unsteady when it comes talking to your “special girl”, we’ve all seen this kind of scenario in movies, right? If you guys remember the movie I love you Beth Cooper, then mostly you know what I mean. I bet you also know the Sorcerer’s apprentice right? The guy staggers his words whenever he sees or started talking with the apple of his eye. Believe me, it only happens to be that unfortunate because these guys mostly fell out of love, fell out of sight and mostly, fell out of words.

                                Then here comes the guy who has all the confidence in the world, the football player guy, the varsity player and the hunky-dunky in campus. They all communicate well when they talk to their team mates, coach, teachers, or some other girls in campus but not to the one who they truly admire. And that’s where the issue comes.

                                Some other guys thought that talking too logical or too intelligent will make them superior in conversation leading to the false belief that this kind of talking will make their girl fall for their words, but some girl, they don’t buy it. They don’t actually swallow your word-tionary.

So, to make her finally decide that you’re someone’s worth talking to, and maybe someone’s worth wasting the night with, then here are some tips for you guys!

(             (1)    Don’t be too logical.

                                -Yes, it is good to hear some witty words to you guys, but not to the point that you overcome your girl’s emotion and believes. Believe me, it will hurt them. Thinking that this guy is being too logical for their first date is a no no. So try to listen and sympathize and move on after.

        (2) Don’t tell stupid things

                                -You know the stupid things, you know that. Now, when it comes to the girl don’t tell words that will make them think that this guy is too cocky or too selfish.

        (3) Have an answer

                                -This is mainly the thing, when she asks you “What do you want to eat?” most guys will answer “I don’t know, what do you want to eat?” The thing is girls and also guys don’t know what exactly we want or feel. So when they asked you give an answer, at least you made a comment, an idea for her to based, if she doesn’t likes your idea, then at least you could know, and if she does, then you win.

        (4) Don’t interview

                                -This is about getting to know the answer, not the case that the girl is applying for you as an assistant. Sure, you want to know her likes or what kind of things she get interested, but always remember that you like this girl and you want to know more about her, not in the matter that you have to interview her. Talk and have a real conversation.

        (5) Sorry not sorry

                                -Just stop saying the sorry. Putting the word sorry before and after the sentence makes you lame in front of her, plus it made some girls think that you truly made something wrong.

PLUS: A manly hand shake will always do the first introduction of you. Depending on how you acted on your firm grip hand shake with another man then somehow it defines how you firstly communicate with them. For your girls, have the proper hand shake if you know what I mean.

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