WHY DO WE STAY ON INTOXICATING RELATIONSHIPS? LEAVE OR STAY?

People create the illusion of love. Why do we need to love? Why someone has to love? Is it really needed? For some quite reasons, YES, it is necessary. Just imagine why. You wouldn’t work so hard on that stupid office not if your love one’s depends on you. You wouldn’t study so hard on those stupid textbooks not if your mom whom you love wants you to learn and grow. You wouldn’t eat those damn green veggies not if you love yourself and your body.

Same things as here. Why do people stay on relationship that is full of sick lame gestures and is intoxicating? It is like you’ve eaten a lot and you’re already full but still you need to eat the remaining dish. Too much and you’re already going to vomit.

Too much is bad. Too much will make you feel like drowning.

But why do people have this power to swallow everything and just say “its okay” even though it’s not anymore?

We give our partner’s a chance- The reason why you keep on staying even though your heart doesn’t feel so happy is that you don’t lose the chance to hope that someday he’ll/she’ll change, for the better, for the both of you to be happy. You let yourself thinking that “I love him/her so I’ll wait” you wait and you wait. You stay because you know he’s/she’s better than that, he still can make you happy. She still can understand you.  At some point it isn’t bad, it can be three things (1) You love him/her so much that you are willing to wait (2) You’re just afraid to admit to yourself that there’s no turning back, that you made a mistake of choosing, of deciding (3) Your ego.

You get suddenly deaf by hearing the word ‘Alone’- Nobody wants to be alone. No one. If you want to be ALONE for the rest of your life then you better get your packs on and live on MARS. We all need someone, somebody to lean on, to give on, and to receive on. “No man is an island”. So just by thinking that you leave your partner, you became suddenly panic about the world “ALONE”, you can’t be alone right? You are afraid that after breaking up with your partner, you ended being alone. You suck on dates; you don’t know the right thing to do. You suddenly feel new about the dating cycle. But will you still stay even if you keep crying at night?

You’re afraid to leave “The one”- This is wrong, love isn’t about being assured, being assured that you should always have someone, assured that you will get home bringing something and nothing. But love is a game you see? You have to make a bet. How you’ll know if he’s the one or she’s the one if you’re not trying to make a chance of a lifetime to bet?

You thought about not moving at all- We are human and so we are not safe of anything, sooner or later we’ll all get hurt—by someone— strangers or even the love of your life. The thing is why you should keep on staying on a relationship that’s teaching you to move on SLOWLY and PAINFULLY? It is just the dead end, you have to MOVE ON.

There are two things either you stay or leave.

Stay- Okay, give them a chance, see what will happen, see if he’s/she’s keeping up. See if you can no longer take the pain, the hurt, see if you can still love the same person everyday but still keeps on hurting you, without him knowing it.

Leave- Take a gamble, decide whether to love yourself above all and choose to be happy. To choose to meet new friends and decide to achieve your pasts dreams, to live by yourself, to explore and learn more things about you, to take a rest and take everything slowly and finally to gamble again for falling in love.

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Boost up your free spirited soul! (The Things you need to do in your 20 something)

One friend said to me that we didn’t live just to exist here on Earth nor live just to live, we somehow given this wonderful gift of Life, because we people doesn’t just want to sprout in this land of mass. We want to truly act on exist.

We want to give, to receive something, to love, to smile, to hug, to fear of something, to get mad, to shine. Generation nowadays, especially teenagers has a larger scope of fulfilling things beyond every line. We tend to be very imaginative and so goal oriented, but that’s not a bad thing anyway. People now are so full of ideas and so full of dreams and that’s when every news, every things has a right for fame.  This list doesn’t account that you should do it by the time you just turned 20, or you’re not 20 by this time, or your age is just not the age you wanted at this moment. Well some of the things listed here don’t need you to be twenty, you can do it even if you’re sixteen, but however, some things need a lot of dedication and hard work. By means of that, is like working to get some bills for your little adventures or trip. Nonetheless, I just did it because people in twenties are in line AFTER teenage days and BEFORE maturity days come. It’s just the matter on how you’ll do it and how you’ll handle it.

I can or YOU can do a hundred list of things do to, but for now let me just take you into the first step of guiding your life by not just existing here. You better WERK it. You better.

1.       Have a healthy exercise- You’re not getting any younger, sooner or later you’ll be out of the calendar dates, (sorry but true) and that means that we are aging. Don’t worry Pal, we are all aging, and it’s a wonderful thing because you know you’re normal. But aging is not an easy thing, your body becomes weaker and somehow some of the things you mostly do when you’re young are a big NO NO when you’re already weak. So before it could happen, why not starting from now, “I’ll start jogging around the village”, “I’ll kick some balls and do some exhibitions”, “I’ll play badminton”. It is a hard task from the start, but later on you’ll get addicted into it and yeah you’ll realize it’s a fun way. You’re not just having fun and you’re not just a healthy young mankind but you can also have bond with your friends or family.

2.       Stay out of your comfort zone- Stay out of bed and stop being so cozy all the time. The sun is coming and the rain is pouring downtown! Celebrate it with open arms! Watch for a movie tonight? Have a date? How about shopping? Watch live concerts? Or basketball plays? YOU CAN DO IT.

3.       Food hunting- You’ll never get tired of this one, because nowadays, there’s so many resto, bar, coffee shops looking for you my friend! Why not bring the Gals and the Guys and have some early breakfasts or a lunch time or a late dinner or just a one great café time? Not just the foods in front of you will make your tummy happy but the unending stories with your friends will do the best.

4.       Learn some new things!- Learn a new dance routine, a new sport or learn to paint. Do the things you didn’t know from the start and be amaze that you can do it anyhow! It is a fun thing for you to know more about yourself!

5.       Now’s your time to choose your favorite author-  Miss that book last month? Wondering why The Fault in our stars is so popular and you’re still sticking to the old fantasy book? Move your ass out and check on the book store so you can enjoy and just relax at your home base.

6.       Frame-up!- Base on my experience, I really do have fun taking photos of nature, buildings, my outfit of the day and sharing my adventures online! And you know what I’m talking about! Yes, Instagram it! Or better yet, HAVE YOUR OWN BLOG!

7.       Pursue your frustrated dreams- Want to paint? Dance? Sing? You can do it. Now you’re in the edge of taking risks and betting your adventures, now’s the time to learn the things you want for a long time ago! Take a step and later on when you already know what to do, you just see yourself smiling.

8.       Learn to drive/Overdrive- Remember you’re not the old dude who can’t enjoy just being yourself or can’t do anything without friends. You’re in the line of happiness and fulfill your heart with so much fun! Bring your car and do the road trip! Whether all by yourself or with friends! The important thing is that you play the perfect music so that you’re energy can boost up.

9.       Have a haircut!- Bored of your old look? Or the everyday all year round face of the day? Well have a risk! Do change your haircut and if doesn’t work out, well at least it isn’t permanent and you’ll have something to laugh about! Plus you can still change it.

10.   Sizzling kitchen- Don’t know anything about cooking or baking? Then grab some cook book and make the kitchen heat up (well not literally), or you can hang out with your best bud or even your mom!

11.   Travel the WORLD!- Tell you what, it is the best feeling to travel and see the beautiful scenes, people, culture with your own two eyes! You’ll just imagine how beautiful the world is.

12.   Do sport- Girls and Guys can both learn this stuff, aside from the healthy benefits it can give to you, you’ll just find yourself enjoying seeing that beautiful body in front of the mirror and yes it is sweeter because you did a great job keeping that hard work and determination up!

13.   Connect with your family- There is no such thing as perfect, same with the relationship you had your family. But now’s your time to reconnect with them and share your adventures with them! Have a wonderful night with them, do the things you planned last time but didn’t made it, bond with them and have a wonderful day with the people who won’t left you no matter what.

14.   Learn a new language-  A new lesson to learn!

15.   Volunteer-  With all the blessings you have in your hands, why not give back? Help some charities, teach the street children to read and write, donate blood, volunteer— with all your heart and willingness!

16.   Win an award- Give yourself a shot and win that thing over! It will guarantee yourself for obtaining and striving hard for that thing.

17.   Save some bills- Everybody’s need to save some money, because bills are just like “easy come, easy go” buddy. So save some and when you feel like buying some new clothes, at least you have something to get into your pocket.

18.   Write for yourself- Click this site Futureme.org because…. Just because! It is so amazing to talk to yourself and write down all the dreams, the goals, to comments you have in your life. Set the date for about 5 or 10 years later and after some years, realizing you write a letter for yourself is such an amazing feeling and at the same time a fun one to enjoy.

19.   Go to camping- Meet new friends and enjoy your daily tasks!

20.   Do scuba diving/Surf the ocean- Refresh, rewind, aaaaand just do the dance along with the sea creatures while swaying with that fresh water touching your skin! REFRESH!

21.   Meet your superstar- Been longing to see your favorite actor? Actress? Singer? Model? Then do some stalking and meet them! but not the creepy dude following them ALWAYS. Just have some good updates about their shoots, concerts, mall tour and see them on sight!

22.   Fall in Love- Yes, my friend. If you already have someone to lean on then you’re good, but if you still waking with yesterdays and the past, please my friend, now’s the time to really move on and part of it is by knowing something new, SOMEONE new, meet some friends and fall in love. But don’t get too hurry to just fall without feeling. I bet you don’t want to happen the same old story right? So just SLOW DOWN, keep your pace on and just feel the moment.

23.   DO YOUR OWN BUCKET LIST- This is your life, you control it. So no matter what people say, if it makes you happy, if this thing makes you feel human then check that box on the things you want to do written on your bucket list!

HAVE A HAPPY LIFE MY FRIEND.

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The A to Z language of Teenagers

ASL- “netspeak” term used from one person to another to ask them their “age, sex, and location.” It is usually used in a chatting situation with someone you don’t know.   

Bae- Term used to designate ‘Baby’ or ‘Babe’ for teenage couples. Like “Hey Bae what you doin’? Can you come here right now?” Quite they didn’t know that some languages used ‘Bae’ as a term for ‘Poop’. Yeah. ‘POOP’

Checkin out-  Going home or dying.  "That fool is goin' to be checkin' out tonight." To look at someone of the opposite sex in interest.  "Check out that blondie over there.”

Dude - A term to informally address an individual. An exclamation used when something is astonishing or amazingly cool. “Dude you better get up or else…”

Epic fail- If something fails though the work seems so easy. If a fail is a fail in life, then an epic fail is a fail of giant proportions.

Friends with benefits- A description for a type of relationship where friends enjoy casual sex with no strings attached. Purely recreational sex.  ""I saw you coming out of Gina's apartment this morning. Are you guys friends with benefits now?" Yeah Like Mila Kunis and Justin Timberlake or Natalie Portman and Ashton Kutcher.

Gangsta- A gangster. One who acts, dresses and talks like a gang member.  "Jesse, what size are those pants? 45? You look like a gansta!"  Yeah “SHE’S DATING THE GANGSTA!”

Homie- Old word (derived from the Hispanic Americans who used "homes" as a label for others) that means friend or companion.  As for, “Yo Guys these are my homies!”

IDK- Acronym for “I don’t Know” Like who cares? Or does it really mean they don’t know. “IDK what are you’re doing”

Juiced- To get drunk or hammered.  "That kid is so juiced.”

K.Dot- Like to assess that “Okay whatever.” Or “Fine, you say so”. To end the conversation.

LMAO- Another acronym used in texting and secret code in reference to “laughing my ass off."  "When Jessica fell in that puddle I LMAO.”

MoMoL- Used specially in Philippines, Acronym for “Make-out, Make-out lang” Like foreplay. Usually used by couples.

Newbie (NooB)- Someone who is new to a particular activity, specifically a game, concept or forum. “Hi guys I’m a newbie here”

OOTD- “Outfit of the day” usually tagged in instagram accounts, twitter or facebook. Used to point out the dress, clothes or outfit that teenager’s wear.

Photo bomb- When a person or object is in a picture accidentally or intentionally and as a result, ruins the photo.

Queen- A homosexual male who is extremely flamboyant and exemplifies many female traits and gestures.  "I've seen some gay people in my life, but that fool is straight up a queen." 

Real Talk- Like saying “No, seriously dude, let’s have a real talk”. The Truth or something very serious. 

Selfie- Famous word used for taking pictures and having a solo picture.

Throw back - A vintage basketball or football jersey. Or a term used in social media accounts to designate a vintage picture, like an old photograph.

Unfriend-  To remove a person from your list of friends or contacts on a social networking site.  

Vogues- Wide wheels, sometimes with white walls.

Wapakels-  Like saying “I don’t give a damn”, “I don’t care” as to say “Whatever”

Xlicious- A term used to describe something that is pleasing to the eye, something that is beuatifal to look at, or someone who is dressed really nice.  "Yo, Henry lookin' xlicious in that suite!" or "That new Lexus is xlicious.

YOLO- An acronym for "You Only Live Once". A term often employed after making an irrational or snap decision.  “This is the best day of my Life #YOLO”

Zoned out/zonen- A term used to refer to the similar actions of daydreaming, unaware of the moment, usually lost in deep thought. The actions of a person who is intoxicated and unable to control their thoughts.  "Leave Matt alone. He's zoned out.

For more Slang Languages of Teenagers:

http://www.thesource4ym.com/SlangDictionary/SlangDictionary.aspx

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THE TEN BLUNT PHRASES YOU USE WHEN YOU’RE “IN LOVE”

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Falling In Love. Feels like Forever. Feels like unending, infinite, and it lasts forever. It brings us into many things, it made us feel the different emotions we thought we don't have and in the same way it taught us to survive in the world of fantasy and reality. Falling in Love has so many definitions. It has so many words and languages. It has so many feelings.

But here are some phrases/sentences that lovers usually say when things are still on the mountain top.


-We both felt it, I mean… the “sparks”

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-We have these special connections, you know, that kind of wire that connects us.

 

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-With you, forever won't be too long.

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-She’s/He’s the one for me. I know that

 

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-Life is incomplete without you.

-We have both the same likes, like music, he likes Foo Fighters and so do I.We understand each other, we are meant for each other.

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-Since the day I saw him/her I know she’s/he’s the one I’m gonna marry

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-He's/She's my True love, my happy ending.

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-I'm head over heels for you.

-We are perfect for each other

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Cheesy Gestures (Based on Movies) that’ll make your partner’s heart melts.

11. The Classic Boom box! (From the Movie ‘Say Anything’)

-          What else can you do once a guy outside your window brings some boom box and let the beat goes on? What else? Doesn’t the beat goes the same as your heart beat? Why not? It’s a classic gesture and teenagers mostly find it ‘ewww’ but what else can you missed with this kind of thing for love? It’s simple as sweet and it designates just how much you love your partner. Additional for the perfect music and that’s it. Plus, why not look up for the hottie John Cusack? WE MELT.

12. Singing in the open field (From the Movie ’10 things I hate about you’)

-          “You’re just too good to be true, can’t take my eyes off you, you feel like heaven to touch all I wanna hold you so much”…. Definitely one of the sweetest gestures of all. I mean how can you not say no to a guy who’s going to sing ‘Can’t take my eyes off you’ and sways and moves like a pro with some help from the band? And how can you not pee in your pants? Oh yeah well, it’s because of the late Heath Ledger and his curly long hair. I Missed that though. Well, it’s a great gesture to do and surprise your partner. You’ll find out that you have an inner sway, moves and a hot voice to sing this to him/her.

    

3.       Draw your Partner! (From the Movie ‘Titanic’)

-          Let your artistic side be known and let your fingers do the magic and touch your partner’s heart. It is so simple but once you’ve done it, it becomes extraordinary. Why? It’s because you draw the most beautiful piece you have. It is the eyes that catch your partner’s soul. You captivated their hearts. And once it is already done, you both look at it and there’s nothing sexier than that.

4.       Do the signature move! (From the Movie ‘Dirty Dancing’ and ‘Crazy, Stupid Love’)

-          Just imagine the signature move that Jennifer Grey and Patrick Swayze did along with the song ‘Time of my Life’, there’s nothing to compare on and it has the most magical moment once the lifting portion is shown. You can do it also, just what Ryan Gosling and Emma Stone did, and part of a challenge for them at first, but the move was also a sign of hotness. Both of you can enjoy this and to tell you, it’s the girl that’ll fly and soar high.

5.       A photography studio (From the Movie ‘A crazy thing called love’)

-          Simple as by doing capturing your partner’s lovely face and keeping his/her smiles and memories. It is by letting your partner knows that you adore them and more than anything else it is by saying they captured your heart just before the camera shots.

6.       Giving a CD Tape/Mix Tape (From the Movie ‘Perks of being a wallflower)

-          It’s like, letting her/him enter another part of your world it is because you let him/her know more about you. You taught your partner how to know you well and part of that is by giving him the tape you listen to and mostly the song you dedicate for him/her. There’s nothing sweeter than that, because just imagine you listen both to the kind of song that your hearts will always remember.

7.       Showing him/her the stars (From the Movie ‘A walk to Remember’)

-          Well not literally speaking, but of course you can show the stars for the love of your life, but most importantly it is by showing him/her the sparks and the light that these stars can give. I bet you get it right?

8.       Build your Dream… House? (From the Movie ‘The Notebook’)

-          If you’re man and you want to give the best for your girl, then the dream house is a good catch. But more of that, it is by building the dreams you both have, either abstract or concrete. 

9.       Take a motor ride after prom (From the Movie ‘The Prom’)

-          After the dancing and all in prom, why not bring your girlfriend into a night ride with your best buddy? Your motor of course not the car, because believe me, your motor is way hotter than your car by that night. Do it while having the song of Shout out Loud’s ‘Impossible’ then after that you’ll have the best prom ever.

10.       Sing to her the Bon Jovi Song (From the Movie ‘A lot like Love’)

-          Dude, it’s your best chance, sing ‘I’ll be there for you’ in your sweetest voice and bring your best guitar. Knock and surprise your baby with this kind of hot love song that for sure will melt her heart. Remember that Bon Jovi never gets out of line. He always rock.

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YOU’RE FORGIVEN. I’M SORRY AM I FORGIVEN?

This page is all yours. Yes all yours. Because this page is for the people I hated, for the people I hurt, for the people I almost forgotten because of what I did to them or what they did to me. You may not know how you affect other people lives, but yes, we are all part of this cycle. It is the stupid cycle of affection. Every action has an effect to other people—bad or good. We may think it is okay with them and its okay to play jokes on them, but we didn’t know exactly what they think INSIDE. So right here, before it’s too late I am going to forgive you, now let me ask you, are you ready to forgive me?

First, to the people I hurt, consciously or not.

Some people I know I hurt, some people I don’t. But yeah that’s the thing, I know I hurt other people’s feeling, but sometimes I didn’t quite know I already step on their lane. So here is it, I AM SORRY.

 (1)To the girl sis I had when I was still coping with the new vibes of my life. Girl, you help me a lot, you teach me many things I wouldn’t forget especially the sweet things you did. You made our friendship more colorful than what you may think. I am glad that I met someone like you. You are really strong and a tough girl, but deep inside you’re my sister. I miss our endless talks, our laughs, our stupid jokes. I miss you. I miss hanging out with you. I miss your stories. I miss you. Don’t ever think that I forgot you as my friend, don’t ever think that. Cause honestly, I miss you so much. If you ever think that I left you behind, I am sorry my friend. I am willing to be your other sister again. I love you and I Miss you.

(2)To my so called ‘baby sister’. Oh my gosh what went wrong? Why we suddenly stop talking and chatting or even texting? Thank you honey for sharing your stories and even your secretes to me. I’m sorry if I blurted some of them. But honestly I keep my pace on with that. I miss talking with you. I miss the talks about our love lives, about our cute endearments. I miss your honest advice. I may be older than you, but you’re way too cooler than me. I’m sorry if you felt I treated our friendship like a trash. Don’t ever think about that. I love you and I Miss you.

(3) To my Grade 5-6 Bestfriend. Hey! How are you? I hope you’re doing fine. I miss you sweet girl. I miss our girl talks; I miss the crazy things we did. I miss hanging out with you, because you’re the girl that cherishes the friendship the most. I’m sorry if you didn’t feel that you’re important to me. I really appreciate and I love when you visit into our house and we have a little chit chat. Some part of my happy life are because of you darling. I miss you please forgive me if I didn’t cope up with our friendship. I love you and I miss you.

(4) For some people who’ve I hurt that I didn’t know. Well, sorry, really. I didn’t mean it and I want to have a good pact with you. I’m sorry if I offended you, if I hurt you physically or emotionally. I’M REALLY SORRY. AM I FORGIVEN?

Lastly, to the people who broke my heart, my soul.

There’s good news for you. You’re forgiven.

(1)    To the boy bestfriend I trusted so much but chose to break my trust, okay I hate you for that. REALLY. I hate you so much that I bring those bad feelings till now. I can’t even imagine why you have to do those things to a girl who trusted you so much and treated you like a brother. Honestly, you’re such a jerk. But what came up to me is that, what am I gonna do with those bag full of bad shit feelings about you? I can’t carry them anymore. I am too tired to feel the hatred for you. So I am giving it away now. I am willing to forgive you. I love myself and I am giving myself a treat— a chance of freedom.

(2)    To my first love. Thank you. Just be happy. It’s not your fault anyway. Though, you somehow made me feel like a trash. But again thank you, you don’t know how I am grateful right now. I am much more complete. Keep safe. Let’s be happy! You’re forgiven.

(3)    For people who’ve hurt me, even for a little span of time, for breaking my heart, for wanting me to cry, for all the stupid gossips you made just to ruin me, for all the bad things you did, for all the judgments you assure is right about me, I hate you. But I chose to forgive you. I don’t want to feel the bad things right now. Because it is happy to live life without so much hatred in your heart.

So I am giving you the question of a lifetime, a one chance of becoming happy.

Are you okay with keeping those shits? Or can you exactly say sorry and forgive?

Think about it.

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Why men in 20’s don’t settle down.

Men, just like women have so many issues in their life. Women speak out for that, but as for men, as defining them to be the powerful, strong, confident guy never speaks out for it. But to tell you the truth, they just keep it inside. So why does men sometimes lead to a break up after three months or two months of relationship? Why does it happen all over again? And it feels like they are finding something or maybe someone that they can’t find?

Well, some of the guys maybe don’t feel like turning their relationships into the next level or maybe they don’t need a girl to complete them— just for now.

But some other dudes there got a thing for girls, got an eye for a girl, got a heart for a girl but still some things pre-occupied their mind and let them to a thought that there is something lacking about them.

So what it is?

(1)    Friends

-Guys sometimes feels fine and are more attentive to their ‘happy times’ and ‘guy thingy’ they thought about more happiness, more adventures, and more stories to come out because of their friends that sometimes they forget about their romantic relationship. It is also the why some guys don’t settle down at 20’s because they thought of lacking time for his partner or for his friends, well either of the two when he’s not already ready he’ll just choose the latter one.

(2)    Career

-Well it is so obvious, that some professional and workaholic guys focus on their career and what more can bring our of this things. They look over for more opportunities in life and they enjoy mostly the time they spend for just working. Seems so impossible but some guys do that. So yeah, guys who are not ready to settle down mainly concerns more about their work and priorities in life that they somehow forget the love they once had.

(3)    Finding what path to choose

- It just mainly the belief of ‘finding their selves’, finding their identity’. It seems a phrase full of shit, but of course when you still find yourself, when you still want to learn more about you, you focus on yourself, you are minding your own. When this guys had a relationship in turns out that it didn’t work that well, it’s because they are unsure of some things and somehow they didn’t know where to start.

(4)    Immaturity and Emotionally unprepared

- Another thing is that some guys are still on the ‘boy toy thing’ nothing serious, nothing more. Just ready to play video games and collect characters of some superheroes and villains on his favorite magazine. Do you remember the movie ’40 year old virgin’? Steve Carell played a man who’s still a virgin, but to tell you it’s just that he’s not that ready and still immature about accepting things as a man and by the way part of it was his action figures.

(5)    Finding Mrs. Right

-Cheesy as it may sounds, but yeah it is somehow the reason why we go and push so hard on relationships but didn’t turn out well. Then we get tired of it and we choose to stop for some time. Then it’s just the thought of ‘he’s still looking for the right women’. And when he surely does, when that time comes, somehow those things that make him unprepared and unready will just turn upside down.

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