Friday, September 19, 2014

She’s not a girl anymore but a woman (Tips for guys)



There are quite differences when it comes to Girl and Woman same with the Boy and Man. Well, this ideal for people who finds a partner who wants to settle down, who wants to be matured enough in handling a serious relationship and to luckily find your other half.
Men nowadays, thought that Girls are trending and Woman is scarcity. Usually it is about the time that guys find this ‘scarce’ woman in order also for them to have a partner that can understand them and can act independently and controlled themselves even in unusual ways.
Remember it’s not about the age. Sometimes even younger age of gals act like women.
1.       Girls think that Men understand their thoughts. Women speak words. This one is given. Girls actually feel that when they do think of something their man feels the same way as they thought but actually not. Because girls think differently from men. When women wants to voice out they actually do speak words and not hide it which actually a sign of maturity that men will actually understands.
2.       Girls wear fancy, sexy, revealing clothes. Women look sexy even if they only wear T-shirts. Girls wear fancy things, more accessories and revealing clothes it’s because they are more creative and enjoying the fashion trends in different blogs! But that doesn’t mean that women don’t do that kind of trends, they do only they wear it occasionally. Even if they only wear a simple shirt and pants they still look so damn hot and sexy. –that is a woman, no need some headbands and clips.
3.       Girls are still inside the box. Women are more of outside the box. Girls keep what they believe in what they know is right and wrong. When they simply think how the things matter to them that is their idea. But women actually think of a larger horizon, they not keep the ideas in a one box. They have many options and have larger thoughts of deciding and thinking about things.
4.       Girls watch. Women read. Girls mostly are fund of watching junk tv shows and enjoy for a moment. Women did much more of the reading, getting some ideas and learning’s about the novel. They get more perspectives about this.
5.       Girls are dependent. Women are independent. Financially, emotionally. Girls still need some guidance and of course expect someone for them to provide for their needs. While women are independent of this and you don’t need to pay the cab for them.
6.       Girls talk about matters. Women can stimulate conversations. Girls mostly lack the knowing in global affairs and don’t have much hobbies and interests. Women can handle conversations and can talk about it and will fascinate you still.
7.       Girls eat salad. Women eat whatever they want. Women eat healthily because they respect their bodies. Girls eat healthily to let everyone else know that they are eating healthily. A real woman will sit down and have a burger and fries with you, with no fuss. She knows she can and because she wants to, she will.

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Epitomy and Symphony: When HIM finally met HER (List of the things that ...

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Epitomy and Symphony: When HIM finally met HER (List of the things that ...: Do gals are the only one who believes in ‘Forever?’, ‘In happy ending?’, ‘True Love’, ‘Sparks’ and ‘Endless Love’? What about the dudes? ...

When HIM finally met HER (List of the things that Men usually did when he really Likes the Woman)

Do gals are the only one who believes in ‘Forever?’, ‘In happy ending?’, ‘True Love’, ‘Sparks’ and ‘Endless Love’? What about the dudes? Of course they do. Some of you won’t believe that or maybe you’ll just shake your head and disapproves. But to tell you the truth, SOME GUYS do believe in those things, that’s when they finally meet the RIGHT GIRL for them. And we don’t know about that, to tell you honestly, but maybe what are the things that could possibly lead you to believing that this guy has forever in his heart?

1.       When He thinks of you mostly. He starts the day thinking of you and end the day still thinking of you. It may be physically, or by texting or calling, but the great part ladies, is that your face is in his head. And it’s a nice point for you girls, because he’s crazy about you. Something might give him a hint that your personality is extraordinary.
2.       Even little things you did matters to him. Yup! No big surprises, even the little ones can get him into sparks fly. Men do appreciate that especially when it comes to their love ones. You may think it’s nothing but for them it’s the whole world to them and once it hit them so much there’s no turning back girls.
3.       He truly cares for you. He minds you a lot. Care what you’re doing; what you’ve been up to, he cares if you’ve eaten the lunch or dinner. He do all the caring because he’s treating you like a princess.
4.       Your imperfections are the perfect ones for him. It may sounds so cheesy but it does girls. Because he doesn’t see that in a bad way, he sees that as you, being true to yourself and therefore he loves it more.
5.       You laugh at crazy things and mostly only the two of you can only understand about it. That’s the thing about connections. You have a special wire that connects you and him. A simple look may mean something and you’ll get it in just a snap it’s because you understand him. That simple joke will make you the both of you laugh hard and will make even more funny when time comes.
6.       There’s no dull time. He doesn’t mind if you’re not doing interesting or something. Sometimes, man has a full time potential of by just looking at your beautiful face.
7.       He wants you to be there in his special occasions. He wants you to be there to witness his success, his triumphs because It means that you are part of it and he wants to show you that this man is more than anything else to prove to you that his good enough and man-up.
8.       He wants you to be there even in the saddest moment of his life. Well, true enough maybe he doesn’t tell you this, but girls it is important for a man to know that you’re there to listen. LISTENING is enough, enough talking so much I will only irritate them.
9.       He doesn’t laugh about your insecurities. He didn’t make it so hard to be an issue but instead he listens and tries to be a friend in your most ‘girly’ times.

Well honestly, there are more of that. We can’t measure how a Man loves his Woman, but whatever it is when the time is actually right and the moment is all set and done. He’ll just know that you’re the ones for him. 

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Wednesday, September 17, 2014

10 THINGS THAT OUR FATHERS TEACH US

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(This may be your mother or both of them, nonetheless, they’re both heroes in action)
(These things maybe unconscious or not)

1.       He taught me how to dance- Just like in the famous line song ‘Oh How I love to dance with my Father again’, it is obvious that our fathers bring the dance floor for us. But before it’s too late, unconsciously they are the crazy dancers in the family. They just do the crazy grooves and steps at the beat of MJ’s songs. But when that specific song designated to play on your 18th dance, it is particularly the most heart whelming dance you’ll ever had. Just one foot ahead and he’ll take the lead.
2.       He taught me how to ride a bicycle- First ever feeling of trying so hard to run a bicycle? Feels like crap. Can’t do the balance thing, but he’s there to hold the bike. Can’t run the bike on my own. He’s still there to make it run. First ever feeling of having scars on your knees? And you feel like shit. But someone will lend a hand and he’s up there smiling cause after all you heard that it’s part of it and you’re doing good. And you feel like exhausted cause you’ve got a wound bleeding and your dad said you’re doing well.
 First ever feeling of riding a bike and you feel like superman flying, feel like a jaguar for running fast, and feel so strong and carefree. You feel like a hero. Then there he is waving at you. Somehow you learn to manage to run the bike, thanks to him.
3.       He taught me how to sing- Song pieces of The Beatles, Beegees, Carpenters, and Scorpions etc. You just have to sing it and memorize the lyrics. You’ll have a duet for some time. Then after a countless of rehearsals, one day you’re in the stage and ready to be named ‘contestant #1’.
4.       He taught me how to play a guitar- First major keys, then the minors, then the flats, it makes my fingers swell. But he’s the dude who always wanted to have a big jam back at home. A little Hey Jude song would be the remedy.
5.       He taught me how to play sports- Fathers, when it comes to sports are really serious. They have big consciousness when it comes to sports—outdoor or indoor. They are the ones who taught us to play basketball, that first lay-up, those first free throws, and how to box out. They are the ones who taught us in their most dull times on how to play chess, the big role of the Queen and the ‘L’ move of the horse. They are the ones who sometimes played with us. Doesn’t matter if it is volleyball, soccer, and football or even scrabble. It is just that they are fascinated with sports.
6.       He taught me how to court- In some guys you probably would say a big NO. But unconsciously, your fathers taught you the big ideas on how to make a woman fall in love to you. You may see the ideas of how your fathers treat your beloved mothers, you may sometimes heard some quick tips or maybe if you have the guts, you just asked them how. Whatever it is, they are the rulers in this game.
7.       He taught me how to love action films- Name it, Jean Claude Vandamme, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Sylvester Stallone, Jackie Chan, Mel Gibson and many many more. I just first saw them when I was a child since when my father let me watch their famous films. And no wonder I heard him shout sometimes, it’s because somehow, I also loved the way it was done.
8.       He taught me how to choose my best team- There’s this kind of cycle, that when you’re child, you somehow also choose the team that your father most make the bet and love to cheer at. You seem so amaze back then, on how he terribly disappoints, once his team loses and how he greatly jump when it wins. But somehow, you also choose the team he favored the most.
9.       He taught me how to make a great coffee- Coffee is basically the basic beverage for fathers, it lies along with a good breakfast and a trendy newspaper. Afternoon would be like the same, except you’re the one who’s  going to make the coffee and somehow you learned the trick on how to make it tastes good based on how he likes—black or creamy.
10.   He taught me how to be myself- We, especially the boys look up to their fathers us their heroes, as their idols, as their superman. We somehow wish to be like them when we grow old, cause we respect them and we idolize them.  As we are growing old, we learn to appreciate the fact that somehow we are different from them. We can’t be like them because every people are unique. We just take guidelines to them but we can’t be like them. They just help us to know ourselves better and therefore, appreciate that we are individuals and we need to be US.

Ten is not enough. There are more of these things that they taught us. Whatever it is, I am sure that our fathers love us no matter what we are. Just like 

The Kind of Love I wanted

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THE KIND OF LOVE THAT I WANT.
(Or maybe you tooJ

                Honestly speaking, I am scared of Falling in Love, especially if there’s no one to catch me when that time comes. But as I learned, Love isn’t like that. You should have the determination and courage to fight for it to be on it, whether to catch you or not. I am in love with beautiful Love stories, some of them I know, but of course there are still many stories untold all over the world, and I’d love to know that. I don’t know what kind of love has destiny or God has planned for me. But if I am to dream, I want this kind of love. The kind of love that is pure and innocent, the kind of love that is not selfish. The kind of love who’ll give me the lessons in life, to experience life beyond through this, to hug the world and see it— more of it. I want the kind of love that is playful, that is imaginative and at the same time is in reality. I want a fantasy for a special moment, for a thousand reasons of days to live and love. I want the love I deserve mostly, to what I deserve. I want the kind of love that I’ll meet the other half of my soul, of my heart, of my body. Nothing is more magical than this, to meet your lifetime partner and best friend. I want the kind of love that will be the best even in the worse kind of situation, the love that will give me the strength and not the painful weaknesses, I want the love that’ll give me hope and chances to breathe. To hold that specific moment and to hug my guy and kiss him in the rain, to be there whenever we needed each other, to make the most of it, to bring the best out of ourselves. The kind of love that gives and receive, the kind of love who understood the happiness and the sadness, the triumph and the pain. The kind of love that will be right for the both of us. The kind of love that will all feels like the first time. The kind of love that GOD will be the center of our relationship. The Man that I’ll be with forever, I thank you.



Coping with flashbacks


1. Tell yourself that you are having a flashback, and that you are safe now.
2. Remind yourself that the worst is over. The feelings and sensations you are experiencing are memories of the past. The actual event has already occurred and you survived.
3. Breathe. When we get scared we stop breathing normally. As a result, our body begins to panic from the lack of oxygen, which in itself causes a great deal of panic feelings; pounding in the head, tightness, sweating, feeling faint, shakiness, and dizziness. When we breathe deeply enough, the panic feeling can decrease. Breathing deeply means breathing in so that your diaphragm expands. If you were to put your hand on your stomach, your stomach would push against your hand when you inhale.
4. Get grounded. This means stamping your feet on the ground to remind yourself that you have feet and can get away now if you need to. (There may have been times before when you could not get away, now you can.) Being aware of all five senses can also help you ground yourself.
5. Reorient to the present. Begin to use your five senses in the present. Look around and see the colours in the room, the shapes of things, the people near, etc. Listen to the sounds in the room: your breathing, traffic, birds, people, cars, etc. Feel your body and what is touching it: your clothes, your own arms and hands, the chair, or the floor supporting you.
6. Get in touch with your need for boundaries. Sometimes when we are having a flashback we lose the sense of where we leave off and the world begins, as if we do not have skin. Wrap yourself in a blanket, hold a pillow or stuffed animal, go to bed, sit in a closet, any way that you can feel yourself truly protected from the outside.
7. Get support. Depending on your situation you may need to be alone or may want someone near you. In either case it is important that your close ones know about flashbacks so they can help with the process, whether that means letting you be by yourself or being there with you.
8. Take the time to recover. Flashbacks can be very powerful. Give yourself time to make the transition from this powerful experience. Don’t expect yourself to jump into other activities right away. Take a nap, a warm bath, or some quiet time. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Do not beat yourself up for having a flashback.
9. Honour your experience. Appreciate yourself for having survived that horrible time. Respect your body’s need to experience a full range of feelings.
10. Be patient. It takes time to heal. It takes time to learn appropriate ways of taking care of yourself and developing effective ways of coping in the here and now. 

How to feel better

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  1. If you like someone, wait.
  2. Give lots of compliments, even if you’re shy. Everyone else is too.
  3. Change. Get a haircut, try new perfume, get new sheets. Become better than you were before.
  4. Eat healthier. Learn to cook something fancy.
  5. Get up earlier and watch the sun come up.
  6. Wear soft clothes, take a bath, drink something warm.
  7. Meet someone new, even just a friend.
  8. Become closer with your friends and your family. Call your mother. Cry with your best friend. Tell everyone how much you appreciate them.
  9. Keep your room clean. Buy some candles. Let the natural light in. 
  10. Make a list of reasons why you’ll be better off without them. Believe they are true, because they are. 
  11. Listen to new music. 
  12. Write everything you’re thinking and feeling. Write letters. Write happy letters, sad letters, and angry letters, even if you’re never going to send them.
  13. It’s okay to be sad, but not forever. Sadness is not as beautiful as music makes it seem. Lack of sleep makes your eyes droopy, not deep. Wake up every morning and tell yourself you’re going to have a good day.
  14. Go to the library. Don’t forget to look in the music section. 
  15. Remove them from your life. Get rid of the things they gave you if they make you sad. They’re not worth it. You will never be happy if you continue to hold on to the things that make you sad.
  16. Make new memories.
  17. Try to find something to appreciate in everything you do or experience.
  18. Being alone is okay, you don’t have to surround yourself with people. 
  19. Become your own best friend. Buy yourself coffee and drink it alone in a cafe. Take your time. 
  20. Learn to love every bit of yourself.